Five Black Men to Look Up to

I have decided to compile a list of influential people whose career path is worth following and supporting.

If you have taken time and read my blog you would know that I love the entertainment industry. I strongly believe in giving people the recognition they deserve, yeah man we ought to celebrate our fellow black men who are making a difference out there. We can't over look their efforts to change our society.

The first one has to be Zibanani Madumo also known as Oneal, though I came to know of him through Big Brother Africa the Chase. Nje ngesiqhelo I snooped around, did a background check on him. Oneal is rapper, a club and radio DJ currently based in Botswana but plans on moving to eMzantsi to broaden his horizons.

 He was raised in an impoverished and notorious township called Phikwe. His road to stardom wasn’t served to him on a silver platter as he had to beg radio stations to give him a chance. On Big Brother he narrated his story on how he used to sleep on a studio awaiting any opportunity that would come along for him to seize the moment. He also explained how reading books helped improve his communication skills. He’s often quoted by his BBA supporters as saying “he is a rose that grew in concrete.”

He is currently raising funds for project he is working on to get young people to read. And I’m crossing fingers that results into him penning an autobiography.

I don't know what cave have you been living in if you don't know who Sbusiso Leope  is. At

36 he has achieved so much, born and bred in Tembisa. Sbu, the number one knocks man as he is affectionately known, is not only a partner to South Africa's most successful record company, TS Records. Which is home to the internationally-recognised star, Zahara who took the entertainment industry by storm when her debut album Loliwe sold out. Dj Sbu is also a radio and TV presenter as well as the president of SLEF foundation in his many titles. As part of his philanthropic work, he has funded a number of tertiary students. He is set to release his first book on December 02 of which he claims it will focus more on business rather than his personal life.

Khaya Dlanga who hails from Dutyini in Mount Ayliff’ story is like a fairy tale. If you are a believer you'd agree with the Word of God when it says everything works for the good for those who believe.

Khaya left Mdantsane for Mother City, armed with only a R500 and a little bag (in case things didn't work out) but today has several awards under his belt; for best blogger and for his work at Coca Cola. He was part of the initiative, facilitated by Pan MacMillan, called the ‘Youngster’s’ and authored a book titled ‘In My Arrogant Opinion’. His life story proves nothing can stop a determined soul because he started from the bottom now he’s eating the fruit of his sweat.

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Shaka Sisulu, the son of our parliament speaker Max Sisulu and yes, the grandchild of our struggle icons, Walter and Nontsikelelo Sisulu.

Shaka is radio presenter and now is part of the new team deployed to stabilize the ANCYL after the havoc that was caused by EFF founder Julius Juju Malema during his presidency.

He is also part of the ‘Youngster’s’ series and has released a book called 'Becoming'. His aim is to stimulate the youth’s interest in reading.

  It’s not everyday that you find a 30 year old having a booming business, but Sizwe Dhlomo’s made giant footsteps not only in the entertainment industry but his restaurant has made a name for itself.

The former live presenter is also doing well as the dj on Y Fm. Sizwe is not only a CUTIE but a smarty too and Tweeps nicknamed him Dhloogle lol. A search engine of some sort due to his vast knowledge about EVERYTHING.
 

These melanin advantaged brothers as Khaya would say have proven beyond doubt that life in the entertainment industry is not all about glitz and glamour but you have to go an extra mile to get the result and be a blessing along the way.

"Ubuntu mabande bakithi!!!"

Face For What Vele?

It pains me that my sisters and brothers have decided to personify diseases and ungodly practices.

It’s okay to accept that an illness has made your body a host but don't make it yours. Ayinguwe tu kaloku!

It does not and shouldn't define who you are. Do not allow it to limit your abilities.

I was so proud when I saw a woman who has full blown aids wearing a sleeveless top and going about her day.

People tend to stigmatize certain diseases an act like only promiscuous people acquire them.

Andiyazi but we should move away from discriminating people based on what they have contracted. Umntu ngumntu  regardless of an opportunistic illness that made their body a victim.

For years I had asthma and needed to be oxygenated whenever the rainy season loomed. And it took a woman of God at Christian boarding school I attended to free me from 'my chronic illness.'

She asked if I had really accepted Christ if so then my family should testify by seeing Jesus the healer evident in my life.

Bear in mind when she said this, I couldn't breathe and needed my 'oxygen' desperately but her words haunted me and I took it to God in prayer.

Some believe, you can outgrow asthma but I believe it was the finished work of Calvary that healed me. It’s all about stretching your faith.

Doubtlessly I believe in awareness and taking the necessary precautions but we should not humanize diseases. And be okay with being called the face of ... And of ...

Don't brand yourself as the positive one. When you step into a room let's not see you as that woman living with HIV and Aids. You are more than that. You were created in the image and likeness of God. A virgin had to give birth for you to be here. Meaning the impossible had to be made possible for you and I.

Kwaye self-pity is never an option. Stay strong.

You must be wondering, why most of my titles have question marks nhe? Ingxaki I have questions than answers. That I cannot help!!!

Must I Go Nood To Be Heard?!

Maybe I am forever scarred by the brutality that french people shown to Sarah Baartman that I can't appreciate women who parade themselves for a good cause.

My question is do we need to strip naked to be heard? Perhaps I have missed the memo that said in order for women to be equal game players they need to go exotic.

We are people of great influence and every kid out there knows sex sells. If we conform to this, the next generation won't be spared in degrading themselves to secure their social standing.

Parading our bodies in this undignified manner makes us look like loose cannons. There are plenty of ways of retaliating against social ills.

It's good to think outside the box but we shouldn't be the ones perpetuating indecency.

I'm old fashioned. I know but I liked how women in the sixties picketed. They managed to get their voices heard without going all Delilah...

She Shall Be Called A Woman

Women are the most enduring beings ever.

Women can literally put up with anything.
Iyakwazi lanto ufukamela amaqanda abolileyo ngelokufihla ihlazo lomzi walo.

I am always thrown back when people judge women who stay in abusive relationships.

I believe most of them are waiting for that I have had enough moment. And when that moment finally present itself, you better pray you not close by to feel their wrath.

Sadly to some it never comes and they die in the hands of their loved ones.

I can't find it in my heart to forgive that Silvertown woman who allowed old men to do as they lusted in her underage daughter in exchange for a beer.

And the women that do nothing after they have heard how their spouses secretly molested their babies.

Its our duty as women to shield what we love and doubtlessly sacrifice our own happiness to see it blossom into something wonderful.

Having mentioned all this I still pride myself in being a woman in Africa. Though we are not there yet in terms of eradicating  women abuse, human tracking, poverty but I know with the strength that God has bestowed in us we can do it.

Phumzile Mlambo-Ngcuka our first female deputy president is a perfect example of how high we can spread our wings. She was recently appointed  as new UN Women Executive Director.

Is My Hair Too African?

 

Let me partake on this weave and natural hair debate that has never reached any conclusion.

It makes perfect sense for Africans to grow their natural hair.

I'm sure the Westerners are laughing at us now.

Have you seen a white woman putting on a dead black woman's hair? Or rocking a Pitch Black Afro wig?

My primary School teacher often said Ubuhle bentombi zinwele zayo so what happens when you are wearing synthetic or worse Brazilian weave.

Doesn't it bother you that fake hair is mostly sold in Brazil and India where poverty rates is escalating? They are likely encouraged to sell their human hair to make ends meet. Euww!

It's an undeniable fact that the minute you take if off the counter and pay few thousands it becomes yours? Right?!

I don't want to be too religious on you because its not my place but I think we are selling ourselves short.

To me, seeing a black sassy woman in a weave represents a lost generation.

We have detached from who we are and we subconsciously allowed the media to dictate to us what true beauty is.

You are not your hair but its part of who you are.

Love and appreciate the kinky hair you were born with.

Big Brother Africa's Feza Kessy an Underdog?

I wrestled with my thoughts regarding this post. I had to sit myself down and try to understand what is really going on  because I don't  want to get my curious, caring self into something that is bigger than me. But the good outweighed the bad and here I am defending Feza Kessy.

Its crystal clear that as 'adults' we are weary of the decisions we make and their consequences.

Feza Kessy to me represented not only Tanzania on Big Brother Africa8 dubbed the Chase but women at large.

She gave us herself. Though Hakeem Mandaza claimed the diary sessions were edited, I still hold on to that belief that BBA was raw and unscripted.

She didn't go in the house and marketed herself as expected or created a front of what she wanted people to see her as.

One time she admitted that she did not want Africa to see the submissive and vulnerable woman that she is.

In a way she is a mirror of ordinary African women. Not perfect but trying her level best to change herself. She once confessed that if it wasn't for the Word(bible) she wouldn't be as grounded.
I admire and respect women that aren't afraid to be seen at their worst.

To me she epitomized beauty. She didn't bother with pimping herself up because she knew she is naturally beautiful. She is that kind that makes clothes look dashing not the other way around.

The negative comments from people who have never been confined in a room with a bunch of strangers from different countries is a bit too much. Even from former housemates who never let their guards down and admitted that they too pulled strings here and there to up their game.

Its okay not to agree with the way a person conducts herself on international tv but the personal attacks maan, ain't cool. Like the former beauty queen likes saying; its never that serious!!!


On the other hand I liked O’Neal Zibanani Madumo.  Fairly because I saw a part of me in him lol not him being a wordsmith or emotionless.

He is realistic, analytical(which is often confused as gossip) and he doesn't force himself on people. He lives by his motto: “Walk in the room assuming everyone hates you”

And the bro is arrogantly-humble if there is such a word.  I wish he makes a woman out of Feza. Does that mean I condone... I don't know but I sincerely wish them all the best.

And cut the poor guy some slack, he said he is a struggling Christian (before you say, aren't we all? Consider the fact he is actually working on his salvation).

Like Feza, he spoke his mind while fully aware that Africa may not like his utterances. He despised the fear that is instilled in most housemates about West Africa and their reps.

Truthfully if you don't stand for anything, you will fall for everything.

Ngaphakoko BBA is not a reality show, where we should be looking for morals. Having said that I don't want to contradict myself because I support the Christians that boycotted the 'shower hour' that is viewed by VIP holders who paid R70 to see housemates naked.

Oh I must add I liked Bimp and Nando's bromance. And I pray that Nando who was disqaualified last night sorts himself up and he is way too cute (I just had to say that nothing more or less).

I am not vouching for my favourites to win the $300,000 They should go and work for their own. Their mission is accomplished. Africa knows who Feza Kessy is. I liked that priceless moment when the Dj played her song and Oneal asked him to play it back. It was epic. Everyone could attest to when you humble yourself, God will lift you up.

One blood, One love and One Africa *in Bimp's voice* Lungelwa says so!!!

 

Domestic workers - Abomzala

One of the nicest thing about my inservice training was boarding the train with domestic workers.

Man these people are full of life and its safe to say there is never a dull moment when they around.

The story that cracks me up to date is this one:

'Beauty' started working for a new Ngamla and she wrote a to do list on the fridge. As expected Beauty did everything on the list and later went to the kids bedroom to watch movies.  The madam arrived from work to find her on the bedroom with her legs against  the wall, giggling non-mad stop with the kids. The madam bed was not made up and dishes were mounting on the kitchen sink.

Ma'am got so agitated and needed an explanation before sending her to the next taxi to Khayelitsha. Beauty politely took the list off the fridge and told her that she did everything on the list and if she were to check everything is spotless like she asked.

Moral of Beauty's story: Don't tell her what to do. She has been a domestic worker all her life and knows what needs to done. If you don't communicate well with her, she will teach you a lesson.

If like me you judge people based on what they are wearing then you are in for a nasty surprise.

You would swear they work for the government or something.

But some are not that motivated. A mama that I befriended because we worked at the same town, confessed that she keeps the best clothes for church and just wear rags to work. Sad shame.

Tjo some DO NOT want to retire. They are so old that they can't even walk properly. I don't know how they manage to get the job done.

I always lol when others brag about working for a wealthy Mlungu on the Northern Suburbs. Yhe wethu its not your house.

Burial Societies For Celebrities

Death catches all of unexpectedly. No one really prepares for their departure though we are fully aware that we are indeed visitors on this earth.

But what makes people who bank not lesser than 30 grand on a good week not to pay burial societies?

Like I have said before life is nothing but a breath and it is for the living. The minute you gasp the last heavy breath and kiss this earth goodbye. Your book gets stored in the land of those that we will only see on the second coming of our Lord and saviour Jesus the Nazarene. After resurrection that is!!!

I too have contributed to a celebrity's burial. It was one of those cases that the star, now a shadow of their former self is  forced by a record label owner to make his/her last television appearance by begging the public to assist them on mounting health bills which quickly turns into burial assistance as their health sadly deteriorates.

My question though is, you have seen how a number of people who once used the fast lane you like have ended up being buried in government cemeteries  or their family had to go to money lenders uyokuquma elihlazo ulishiyileyo.

Why has it never crossed your mind to pay or save for desperate times?

Retailers, football clubs are now cashing up in the burial industry.  Some people are even saying owning a funeral parlor is good way of making money.

I don't know the clauses of the contract that an artist and a recording company signs but it must be compulsory for both parties to have a written agreement of debiting certain amount of money that will be fixed for the artist's burial.

I know its not easy to pay money for years and not having someone dying but should a person die then it would be of great help.

Plus it would cut some slack those insurance ads that the SABC forces us to watch!

Is It Still Joyous After Joyous Celebration?

I have noticed the trend among Joyous Celebration alumni's of venturing to other genres after serving the choir.

I think it was last year when Nkanyiso Bhengu announced that after years of worshipping God the Father he had decided to sing Disco music.

Apparently he did not want his music to be boxed and wants to reach a wider audience.

Swazi Dlamini did not surprise me when she released a jazz inspired album and even now there is plenty of chilled sounds on her gospel Mino.

Idol winner, Khaya Mthethwa who wowed thousands of South African's last year when he became the first person of color to be crowned as the utmost winner. Juggles both worlds.

Thabo Mduli who describes himself as a fly Christian(I think I am one too lol) offered music lovers a pop album which was slightly different to his previous sound. I mean his music has always been inspired by RnB. I think.

Having not followed Asanda Bam's journey on JC, I was so perplexed to learn that she was once part of the team.

Then there is Sechaba Pali allow me to say he is an embarrassment to the gospel fraternity. Not only was he charged with statutory rape but he allegedly said he thought the 15 year old he had a sexual encounter with was 17.

I say its okay to come clean and admit the fact you are just making money bhuti!

He unearthed shocking news on Drum. He claimed half of the choir on Joyous during his time drank tjo!

I don't want to dismiss his claims altogether but it really posed a serious question. Not only in the choir but to Gospel music as a whole. Is it just business and not element of redemption in their music.

Doubtlessly Lindelani Mkhize, Jabu Hlongwane and Mthunzi Namba changed the gospel scene aphe'khaya but their efforts are plummeted with disgrace.

Generally I avoid being a ladder that faithfully lifts people to their destination but remain in the same place. This doesn't seem to bother gospel peeps anyway that's how I see it!

Not at Church Maan!

The house of God is the bridge between the rich and poor. Its where everyone is equal.

Times are evolving and technology plays a huge role in our lives but I believe the saints shouldn't conform to the standards of this world. In actual fact it must the world copying us Bazalwane.

Preaching from an ipad for me is not ideal.

What happens when the battery dies in the middle of a sermon? Or on your way to a revival notorious kids rob you of your belongings?

A Christian comedian on Thabo Mdluli's show mentioned that if it was today the two stone tablets that Moses held, could have been ipads.

I'm one of those that gladly hold the bible close to my heart when I go to church sort of making my neighbours aware that I'm going to church.

And reading the bible from my phone in the train might lead people into thinking "ndidlala u-facebook."

Maybe I am still stuck in the past. But I love the song that says give me the old time religion. It was good enough for brother Paul and Silas, it is good enough for me.

It pains me when I invite people to church and they decline because they don't have proper clothes. To some extent church services have turned into modeling ramps.

We have forgotten the great commission.  And bible verses that reminds us not to be like the world. I guess that idiom that says if you can't beat them, join them is true to some peeps.

Move! magazine carried articles asking if there should be restrictions on how congregants dress. It was pointed out that you can't dress like you going to a club and one should respect the holy sanctuary.

We shouldn't compete with the world. We are not of the world. One time I rolled my eyes so hard such that my iris tried to pop out. A sis was dissing people who wear fake lashes whilst she was putting on a weave?!! That's a perfect example of judging people who sin differently than you.

You might ask is it a sin to have artificial hair? Read 1 Timothy chapter 2 verse 9

Like Pastor Nathi Mbombela once said Ungaliphuculi ude uliphuncuke!

Becoming A Man The Xhosa Way

This is the most sensitive topic for me but I will try tackling it with all due respect and not offend anyone because that's not what I'm about.

What has driven me to finally blog about this situation is the negativity of how it has been broadcasted by international and local media houses.

Hundreds of initiates 'perishing in Mpumalanga and the Eastern Cape' should make headlines as to bring attention to the silent killer. And not condemn the practice.

But what is driving the prospect man to defy all odds and put their lives at risk?

They have heard of people who lose their manhood in the bushes and how Amakhankatha corrupts innocent boys!

Removing the foreskin in hospital is always an option but why most initiates to be, don't consider it?

Coming of age symbolizes a lot of things and it shows that you have moved from one stage to another and its important that one follows the right procedures and not take the easy way out even though it sometimes mean putting your life on a cliff.

Circumcision is our covenant with God you remember when Father Abraham got circumcised on the same day with his son?

Yazi nawe everything that God has made Holy spontaneously work for the good for those who practice it.

It has been scientifically proven that the removal of a foreskin decreases one's chances of acquiring HIV.

We have seen tribes who had previously ignored this old Xhosa custom encouraging their boys to get circumcised.

I know my government does not want to abolish this old tradition but I fear the intervention of the West might corner them as they always do.

By no means do I try to overlook the fact that a number of people have lost their lives. And the fact that many are still nursing psychological and physical scars that have been left by the loss of manhood but let's figure a way of making it work.

Savita Mbuli Fearing For Her Life

It hasn't  been long that the nation bid farewell to witty, charismatic broadcasting legend Vuyo Mbuli but 'stunts' keep surfacing.

Reputable magazines followed Sunday Paper’s trail of telling us how the 'estranged ' wife is living her life and how  she is a publicity seeker anyway I will leave that to your judgement.
As much as I believe the dead should bury the dead and life is for the living with the late Vuyo I kinda bend my own rules. There is always an exception wethu.

But so you know I always support the wife who vowed not only before witnesses, family, friends but to God to stand by her man 'in sickness and health'. I respect that institution man!

It is reported that Savita is now living as a prisoner in her own home after an alleged hitman from Durban informed her of a plot to kill her.

I respected Nomakula Robert’s  decision of not entertaining the rumour that she dated the late vetaran but that later changed when she poured her heart to Heat Magazine.

Maybe she was playing the game and creating hype for her participation Strictly Come Dancing six.

We don't grieve the same way and its important to give one another space.

Trying to understand what is happening Emagcakeni akwaMbuli is out of our reach.  I don't want to go Tyler Perry on you(Preach) but in my not so trained view there is a thin line between public interest and tarnishing peoples reputation!

A good thing though is seeing how  Noleen Maholwana kaSangqu and Basetsana Khumalo are supporting their girlfriend.

I know the picture is not in harmony with the post but I liked it.

Kanye West - Good kid Gone Bad

Kanye West

I am one of those who jammed to Kanye West's Jesus Walks single. I have mad love for Rap or the Spoken Word. It just tickles my fancy.

Some of you are probably rolling your eyes right now wondering what has possessed udade Lol.

College Drop-out was released in 2004 and I accepted the Lion of Judah in 2006 remember?!

With that cleared masingene emxholweni!

Man this kid is talented, He is not a sought-after producer nje, we can't take that away from him can we?!

Yall know satan is an opportunist but one author explained this beautifully. He said if you not filled with the Holy Spirit you are certainly filled with Lucifa.

In simple terms my friend willingly or not lucifa is dancing in your heart and calling the shorts if you dust your bible on sundays only or during funerals.

How did he manage to twist the arm of Donda's one and only baby who once professed "...But if I talk about God my record won't get played Huh?"

When you are vocal about the social ills rest assured that you have made satan your enemy.

He is a smart, patient chap that waste no time in destroying what God has fearfully made.

He firstly sweeps you off your feet by flashing money and a breath-taking future that in your right mind, you can't say No to. Who doesn't want to be wealthy and lack noting? Huh?

More like those evil Madala's that hold influential positions that can make things HAPPEN for you provided that you do them a small favor(you don't want me to mention it, do you?).

I believe this is what happened to Kanye: Whoever controls the media sort of laid rules and made it crystal clear what he expects from his ambassadors.

For example most satanist are forced to kill immediate family members in order to progress in their satanic life.

This is aimed at making them ruthless beings that only want to get the job done and in the process it kills the connection they have with their loved ones. And rely solely to the devil.

One of the prerequisite of illuminati's is to blaspheme God and recruit others in their quest of making this world lawless.

Its a fact that Kanye is no stranger to controversy but what makes him sink so deep into challenging God. I don't want to think he doesn't know what he has gotten himself into. A son of a church counselor knows better.

I dont want to rant about what he has done that makes me believe that he is challenging God. A google search might help you on that one.

A more detailed post about illuminati will follow.

Couples Who Sing Gospel

Nqubeko & Ntokozo

It is highly discouraged for a sister to meddle or admire the marital life but I can not help but poke my nose to 'soul mates' that sing together.

God created us to worship him day in and out. How awesome it must be to some of our stars who are faithful to their heavenly Father by joining Heavenly Beings in worship.

You often hear at our local churches that praise starts at home, without a doubt some households practice it.

The love between Nqubeko Mbatha and Ntokozo Mbatha is 'beyond word's. I remember when they were both nominated for the same category and it was scooped by the Mbatha Queen she just humbly went on stage and recited her hubby's clan names.

The couple is blessed with two cuties though I haven't seen a picture, I can confidently say the two breeds harmoniously offspring with Ntokozo's beauty and Nqubeko's charm that would be a lovely combo.

Thabo & Nonhlanhla Mdluli

On the other hand Thabo and Nontlantla Mduli ignite fire on stage. The love and respect these two have melts my heart. With them I kinda change my perception that getting married these days is like that indemnity form that one signs before having a heart surgery- chances of dying are soo high.

 

Bongi & Collin

I must confess I didn't get the Bongi and Colin duet. I felt like they are better apart, musically that is but there is something about them that makes me to stop whatever I'm doing and listen.

This sacred institution has lost its value on society. Seeing public figures that are determined to make it work under the scrutiny of people who probably go to their kittens and dogs when the sunsets   but have the audacity to spot the cracks in people's lives when the sun arises.

Keep blessing us with your music ministries and making the word of God heard by the Gentiles ndinithanda thandi!!!

Dancing With A White Guy

I just  liked this Pic

I do not see the fuss around schools having segregated matric balls.

One thing we should refrain from is forcing ourselves to Whites.

I was born in the late eighties and frankly I was privileged enough not to experience apartheid.

The only memories I have of this 'devious past' is that in my hood whenever my late mama shouted nantsi ihagu-the huge truck that was used by apartheid enforcers, I would subconsciously hide under the table.

Horrible things occurred between 1948 till 1993. Comrades disappeared, the amazing Black Conscience Leader Steve Bantu Biko was tortured by brutal prison warders and died in their custody. Chris Thembisile Hani was assassinated in 1993(I for one see foul play there remember it was during the Convention for a Democratic South Africa negotiations between Tamkhulu Nelson Rholihlahla Mandela, F. W. De Klerk and  others).

The Truth and Reconciliation Committee brought more sorrows than closure as families had to watch intense video clips of how their loved ones died in the mercy of abelungu and the sell outs blacks who for the benefits of their loved ones betrayed their people and inflicted pain.

Nothing and I repeat nothing can wipe away the image of Gugulethu 7 and the Sharpville massacre to name just a few.

Twenty years after apartheid and we still dancing to its tunes. Fori ntoni maan. Surely igazi labo zange liphalale nje.

I've read stories about certain Afrikaners who have created their own village in  Tshwane.

I want to proclaim Afrika for Africans but let's not be selfish and reintroduce apartheid slowly by chanting words that sow disintegration and hatred towards each other.

Those who are old say the National Party lead government made mixed race people believe they are better than Blacks and should work closer with them to attain their approval of being human & made black South Africans believe their are better than their fellow Africans.

How is all this related to the separate send-off for grade 12s. Simple dear, the big beautiful trees we see are kept together by their roots and it would be pointless to cut a tree from its stems and leaving the powerful roots.

If we sincerely want to curb racial segregation, my leaders should firstly try to root out racism and the belief certain races are superior than others.

We all breath the same air and we all excrete faeces and our blood colour is the
same, black or white we are all the same and if kids are not comfortable with one another forcing them to bond would create unnecessary resentment.

Meanwhile parents should try instilling good values on their kids because they reflect what is happening at home.

We tend to focus more on senseless things and not uncover the cancer that is slightly eating up ubuntu.

Anyway this is how I see it, it does not have to be correct. Feel free and tell me your thoughts 'comrade'

One Step At A Time/The Blessing

Ordinarily we expect parents to take care of the needs of their children and devote their time in making sure that they have everything they need but that is not the case with Masixole Gilana, at 23 life has hit him hard but through it all he stood his ground and persistent to make an honest living.

Masixole, originally from a small village few kilometres from Centane called Gqunqe joined hundreds of Eastern Capers in 2006 and headed to the Mother City.

The transition was not smooth and easy as he struggled to adjust to the fast paced city life.

Back in Gqunqe everyone knew who he was and didn't battle for his Aunt's business to be noticed as he often had to accompany his aunt who sold woven mats to pensioners.

He found himself immersed into this big city life but had to grow out of it quickly and find a way of making things work, "I enrolled at Mandela High School in Crossroads to do my grade ten and I was staying with my older sister  and brother so I decided to sell snacks to make ends meet and this continued throughout my high school years.

My teachers and classmates didn't expect me to pass because my attention was so divided, little did they know that I slept after 2 pm trying to catch up.

I truthfully enjoyed this, I had a timetable and I stuck by it.

I then worked as a cashier for Kentucky Fried Chicken for eleven months and when that period ended I applied to be a Stock Controller at Game Stores and I tirelessly worked there for five months but got bored and resigned. I was so used being my own boss.

I applied for a six month Business Management course at Cape Town College and in between classes and assignments I lived a double life as train vendor to support my studies and my basic needs.

                                                                                  Social Life
As busy as I am I still make time for friends and family. I love watching TV and going out with friends and I try to make time for them but I don't want to be like those guys at Ekasi that start their weekend on Thursdays and finish it off with a Phuza Monday.

Challeges & Hopes For His Business
I'm passionate about entrepreneurship and being my own boss though a small business has its own challeges. Like here there are many of us and I try to distinguish myself from the rest by selling fruit and snacks. So far I'm the only one doing that.

I'd make more money when I have a stand because being mobile means leaving some snacks though I don't want to sell andinayo.

Plans For The Future
I'm looking for a job because being a vendor now is challenging with Metro Rail chasing us and not wanting us to operate from their stations. Plus I'm not comfortable with the environment.

Masixole enrolled at the Cape Peninsula University of Technology to study National Diploma in Entrepreneurship and funds his education, something his colleagues would see as a setback and a sign to give up and join oomahlalela elokshini.

Let's change this world by being the best we can be and remember tough times do not last but tough people do.

I hope you are blessed by his story as I am so shiya owakho umzila.

Shopping Assistants

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OMG! I don't know whether they are trained to lie and sell people whatever they seem to be interested in.

Following consumers around and telling them prices without even asking for them is their daily struggle. I mean I will yell or indicate when I need help.


Long back I visited a retail store that sells  expensive clothes. A woman who wears what looked like size 40 was fitting a tight dress that didn't flatter her love handles and she asked the assistant if the dress was okay on her, she didn't hesitate and told her its a right cut for her.

Me not wanting to sound rude and jealous I walked away in dismay...

I love the colour purple, biblically it has a meaning and I won't share it with you hardy. I needed a bag but a saw a pink one at a boutique close to where I work.

And I asked if they had the bag in purple, My Word, the assistant started telling me how everyone wanted that bag and and I must admit it was not the best they had and didn't see a reason to go on & on kuba ibingekho caba yabo but I wanted it lol.

I know the goods need to be off the shelves and the big bosses want to count profit at the end of the month qondile but forcing people to take home things they don't need is bad, horrible.

Like Oomatshonisa that keep on lending to people who clearly have a mounting debt.

Yhoo its so worse for people that get social grants as illegal as it is they have no choice but to leave their bank cards(obvious ne-pin alok) and I'd's with the lenders. Its business baba akudlalwa.

I strongly believe in black empowerment and liberating our minds but we too need to say kwanele!

Kwanele in everything the lying shop assistants,
Kwanele to corrupt leaders,
Kwanele to mediocre education,
Kwanele to being treated as second citizens kulomZantsi Afrika!

Ja I just wanted to vent, nothing more o less! Remember that KFC add I'm hungry and angry its all about ngry ngry!!!

Mr Kunene Going Gaga?

I have seen how defensive Kenny Kunene was when Democratic Alliance spokesperson Mmusi Maimane challenged his decision of following in Hugh Hefner's footprints.

Kenny admitted in live radio that he slept with his students while he was a teacher and then made a u-turn claiming the girls he taught were older than him. Making it unreasonable to say he was involved in a statutory rape.

What boggles my mind the most about his 'publicity stunts' is how he disrespects women, I'm not going to comment about his rather rude reply to "the glorified garden boy" Maimane.

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I'm fully aware that he didn't point a knife to the 'army' as he calls them but like any father he has a responsibility to protect and support the daughters of the soil not use them in exchange for money and the 'good life'

With the increasing rape cases it would be only fair for people in the limelight to stand against any form of rape. We need a louder voice to rebuke this monster.


Liking it or not once you have become a public figure and claiming to be wealthy too, the youth immediately want to be like you and it's not your fault it comes with the territory.

In my eyes jump starting a career in the porn industry will fuel this 'outrage.' It's no secret that this is a money making business and there is no emotions attached to it but why?

Kuphele other promising business opportunities that could be beneficiary to him and his 'crew'? I  second Gayton McKenzie's move of distancing himself from the so not smart journey that Kenny has 'embarked' on.

There is a difference between controversy and self destruction hayi ke not to mention recruiting youngsters for.. !

Skool me folks who granted TopTv the license to broadcast porn and is it possible for it to be revoked?

Porn, like gambling can be addictive and I think its just a waste of airtime and abusing the platform of impacting the masses positively.

Wena uthini?
 

My Last Sharp Sharp to Vuyo Mbuli!

I'm one of those who watched Morning Live to see Vuyo Mbuli, he was the life of the show.

Even as I write this I can't believe, he's no more. It was  so unexpected and out of the way but when God has decided who are we to question him!

I pray that his family, friends, colleagues and fans find comfort in knowing Vuyo did his part and excelled at it and the honest truth is, he is irreplaceable.

He was no average anchor and it was always beautiful to see how well he engaged his guests and making them feel at home.

No matter how serious and complicated the issue analysed, he never compromised his standards -a hand shake after each interview was guaranteed.

Those that have had an opportunity of meeting him all agree that he was an eloquent and down to earth man.

From presenting the show with swollen feet after participating in the Comrade Marathon and asking the cameraman to zoom in to give us at home a sneak preview of his experience to teasing his co-workers and reading tweets live, everyday was extraordinary.

He was a true testament that you are blessed to be a blessing.

We are greatfull for the little time that we watched, laughed while being informed of current affairs..

I came across this quote by the Minister in the Presidency for Performance Monitoring and Evaluation, Collins Chabane. it moved me and I hope it does the same to you too.

"I further call on young and aspiring journalists to strive for excellence as Mr Vuyo Mbuli did, he has left his mark and walked his journey with pride. May his soul rest in peace!"

It's reportedly that he collapsed while watching a rugby match between the Cheetahs and the Reds at the Free State Stadium on Saturday night. He was treated at the scene before being rushed to the Medi-clinic hospital, where he later died at the age of 46.

Facts About Our Dear Vuyo:

• He was a teacher by profession and a linguist
• One of the seasoned presenters that joined the show in November 1999 and
• A SA FM presenter and businessman.

Vuyo's Favourite phrases:

• Andile Masuku, she knows the weather
• Awu bathi Entuzuma KwaZulu, libumbhene ihore leskhombisa
• Mintiro ya bula bula

Like Rob Byrne said he was a shining star! Heita daarr, Sharp Sharp!

Public Figures Dressing Fab In Court

I admit maybe I'm not moving with times or I missed the note that said 'celebrities or their loved ones' should dress dashing for their court appearances.

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Lawyers cost a fortune- they don't carry those suitcases for sweet nothing and wearing designer clothes is not kind to the pocket lol.

No need to fuss just wear a simple black attire that screams I'm remorseful for what I've done and given a second chance, messing with the law would not spring up to mind.

Clothes can communicate the nasty thoughts that should be buried deep in one's grey matter.

I'm not saying people must cheat but dress appropriately for the situation they are in.

Nam in my small world I occasionally turn to clothes to stimulate my mood for example if its my turn to do the dishes I wear my highest of heels and immediately feel the strength I need to get the 'job' done. That is just me!

Back to the subject: What makes these powerful man and women succumb to the pressure of dressing to the nines when they are in a situation where they probably don't even have time to worry about the simple things in life?

Is the possibility of not seeing the sun again somehow make them want to parade their wealth again?

If you have watched Queen Latifah and LL Cool J's Last Holiday you will remember that When Queen was diagnosed with a deadly sickness. she stopped caring about the simple things in life that mattered the most to her and vigorously splashed most of her money into an expensive holiday.

Ekasi there is this growing culture among Oomahlalela of dressing up for funerals only senditsho nje!

Digging Deep Into Your Garbage

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Trash is collected on Tuesday in my hood and its so bad to see people digging deep in people's receptacles looking for recyclable goods.

To them its a job and they do it with everything they got but I wish we could meet them half way and separate reusable waste to make it easier for them.

I know this won't be adopted by my people. We like seeing others half into our disposables. (Prove me wrong my sister & bro).

Mondoza saw this long time ago "umnto'mnyama akafuni ukubona omunye esiya phambili PHEZULU."

Apparently this is called 'Pull Her/Him Down" syndrome, PHD in short. And it has made its nest close to where my people reside.

You see it everywhere you go, like any qualification it has its standard, first & middle class folks are seen eagerly participating. 

"If we don't litter the cleaners will be out of jobs(black tendency right there)," that is what I'm told whenever I raise the issue.

I am not an environmentalist or a neatness freak but since my primary school days , when retailers started selling plastics bags because they thought it would  decrease pollution and it won't decorate our country I sort of wanted to protect the 'earth' too cause it sounded cool!

I urge you to support those who are making a business out of 'dirt' and are keeping our environment clean in the process.

Friends?

I met Asiphe Nombewu on a selection interview at the Cape Peninsula University of Technology. We were a group of three girls but sadly the other girl did not make it.

On the day of Orientation we met Siphesihle Notwabaza a very vibrant and talkative Centanian.

I remember that day vividly. We were going to the Campus library and Asiphe affectionately known as Khody teased Sihle because he was talking non-stop.

At first I thought he was a second year student cause he blended well with everyone.

Together with Gcobisa Sizani who went on to study Nursing at the University of the Western Cape and Sibulele Stemele we formed an on and off friendship.

What made us clicked beside studying the same course was our passion for arts and entertainment.

I think I'm talking for everyone when I say media is a powerful tool, a great source of influence.

It somehow control or dictate the lives of millions of people and if used correctly it would change the whole world. No propaganda here so take a chill pill lol.

Towards the end of 2011 my friends wanted us to give back to our respective communities and help at an orphanage for disable kids. It was a great idea and would help us forge a strong friendship but knowing myself I had to decline.

I am an emotional wreck though I love kids with all my heart, watching a 'helpless' child struggling to breathe would paralyse my soul (pun not intended).

Come December holidays I had to go home and when I got there an extended family child who was paralysed from waste down had moved in and we had to spend a couple of days with him. A handsome boy if I must add.

The first few days were fine, we got along though he also had difficulty with speech.

So he called me and said "I want to poof" and I could not believe my ears. Couldn't he have waited for the elders to return from work and then relieve himself?

It took a good twenty minutes or so for me move him from where he was sitting to the bathroom and he was giggling all the way, I was dead scared cause he was shaking nevertheless we did what we had to do, me & Zikho and brought him back to his spot.

My grandmother came back from work and the kid told her everything and that how he fooled us into believing that he was  immobile.

Fast forward to 2012, there was so much happening in my life and I was in a position where everything was meaningless.


I arrived late at Tech and found Asiphe and Sihle at the computer lab. There was this bad vibe between us and even the bubbly Sihle was tense.

They later told me that they were planning an 'intervention' and they have observed that ever since I got a place of my own I stopped attending classes.

I smiled and counted my blessings. Their warmth and love  meant a lot and I thank God for making our journey stop at the same station.

I hate posthumous awards, I don't understand what inspired their inception that's why I decided to share what we have been through and how blessed I am to have you guys in my life.

I pray that you grow and be the successful individuals you aspire to be and most importantly don’t believe your own hype and forget that having Jesus in your lives is the beginning of wisdom.

Cheers!!!

Ready For Rape?

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My heart is heavy with the rape stories that we read about everyday.

Honestly they are not just stories that we should forget. They are people, they have experienced so much & no compensation or lengthy jail sentences can replace what have been 'illegally or inhumanly  been taken away from them.

How gruesome do we want these 'stories' to get. Are we that deaf to the cries of innocent children. I know my government has established special courts but it feels like they have not done anything. I have not seen any decline qha its increasing.

A stern warning needs to be sent. We can't have our children raped as if its the coolest thing to do.

Andazi what needs to be done but the clock is ticking. Its reportedly that every four minutes a person is raped in South Africa and one in every three women will be raped in their life time.

Sadly we have become the rape capital in the world. Sodom and Gomorrah to be precise. But at whose expense? Whose life are we putting on the line?

We have lost Ubuntu that's set us apart from other nations. A father that leaves next door didn't think twice about instilling good values on children and how one should behave among old people. Not today! They are no longer feared heads of household.

They have turned into ruthless, heartless beings ( not all of them).

I have heard some rape because it makes them feel powerful, in control of their victims. They suddenly become the CEO's they have envisioned. The beast that the world cannot touch.

We hoped that Anene Boysen was the last. The nation was at its feet and we all rebuked this hideous behavior. We all sincerely mourned her death. Body mutilation is not something we are familiar with and it sent shivers across the country.

Some matched demanding justice to prevail. The media played a crucial role by spreading the word and informing us of what will follow.

Years ago while I used to watch Dr Phil 's show An African American confessed to being raped by an older man and he said. " I died on that day"

I weeped so hard nawe you can imagine the pain and guilty that man has endured. Blaming himself for not being strong enough and what could have attracted the rapist to him.

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Nathi as the society we don't show much support to survivors.

I was watching Good Deeds with a friend that I won't name and shame not now. She became so excited when she saw Gabrielle Union who played Tyler's wife and she said she was raped? I turned and asked so what?

Why is it news when someone has been brutally hurt -she did not ask to be raped. Its not something you chose.

Whether a person walks the street naked or whatsoever  that does not gives anyone permission to destroy someone's life. Let's love and protect one another.

Then if my people who are called by my name will humble themselves and pray and seek my face and turn from their wicked ways, I will hear from heaven and will forgive their sins and restore their land: 2 Chronicles 7:14. I love this verse and i'm sure you know what I’m insinuating.

Mayihlome ihlasele!

'South Africa's Youngest Billionaire'

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The state broadcaster is popular for coping foreign content. We adopt their thingy  and add our Mzantsi flavor. Imbiza ivuthwe.

Mandla Lamba "a mining tycoon" with businesses manganese mines in Mzantsi, Zambia and Congo- Brazzaville, then 25 was arrested for fraud, theft and culpable homicide and he claimed businessman and ANC deputy president  Cyril Ramaphosa and his wife, Tshepo Motsepe were his mentors.

Mr Lamba's arrest left me with different questions racing my mind. I wanted to know more.

It takes some education-anyana to nail such scams. Not every millionaire wanna be can execute them & mayihlale injalo mbhem.

He came across as genuine cause he was handsome , smart and he used that on his advantaged and managed to fool a number of people.

I have not found closure on his case and it just disappeared from the limelight. We don't know what really happened and what forced him to stoop so low. He has not been convicted  yet.

He is a smart guy and I'm sure he knew his claims would attract unneeded attention but why? Getting a decent job is not easy but he appeared to be a smooth talker so that could have landed him one.

If he shifted his focus and energy into building a  proper business eventually he was gonna be a respectable somebody.

An investigation show past his conviction is what we need to see and it would draw a picture of what made him do it regardless of the risks involved.  Its not only for our benefit as it will sort of warn people who think of committing the same crime.

It's like exporting drugs thinking you are special - the detectors won't see through you. You've heard how tight foreign laws are and how merciless the judges have become.

Blaming unemployment and its first born child poverty does not justify the act. Greed, selfishness and lawlessness does not even begin to describe lengxingongo.

A show that will seek to establish the force behind this demon is needed. I'm calling it a demon because I do not believe normal people would be so naïve. I believe there is a force driving them.

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Recently Trevor Madondo, a socialite and broadcaster was cleared from a similar scam. His business partner together with her banker boyfriend planned to defraud a well-known  bank of 7 million rand.

Madondo's name has been unfortunately been dragged to this fiasco. One can't easily shed this weight of your back.

Again an investigative show would give us a sneak preview of what drove Trevor's associates into committing this horrible crime.

Organ Donor For Who!

The thought of having my heart pumping 'peacefully' in someone else's body freaks me out.

Its the 21st century and the world is modernized and science plays a huge part of our lives but they are taking it too far.

Why do they feel the need of challenging God ewe it boils down to that. I'm with the Jehovah's witnesses on this one, blood transfusion is a no  no! I can't have my blood circulating freely in a strangers veins. That's vampire style to me.

Everything is possible except for cloning people(I think they are working on that too).

If you have lost your limbs in a horrible accident doctors can fix you up with new ones in a beat. That means someone must die and match your blood type.

The Assisted Reproductive Technologies are gaining momentum. There are even people called donorsexual. Basically they  donate their  'seed' without having sexual intercourse with recipients its similar to In vitro fertilisation (IVF) but its not done in hospital and when the process succeeds they move on with their lives and forget the child.

Years back I was in a tight corner and I needed financial injection so I paged a local newspaper hoping to get a piece job but I couldn't find one that I was prepared to do. I saw an add about donating or selling  your egg to a couple that can't get pregnant naturally. I was astonished, I didn't know this kind of business existed  but sadly I did not meet the requirements nor was  I going to do it. I was just curious Bathong!

Anyway how will the child feel to be a work of science?

When we were younger it was cool to be told that we were bought at a retail store- now some kids are bought for real tjo.

I'm gonna come across as ignorant and cruel: If you cannot have kids and you not keen on adoption then hlala unjalo.

I'm not imposing my beliefs because at the end of the day its your life, your choice and unfortunately you will give an account to God so its best to do things with full knowledge of their consequences. Liking it or not there is judgement day.

Ur views? Mandingayityi ndedwa.

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I saw a dark,cute and chubby guy reading a book about totems and clan names. More like where do you come from typa thing.

I asked if he was Xhosa (imagine being asked that) and my question amused him.

He turned out to be Xhosa though I had concluded that he was Nigerian and he was interested in  poetry and literature.

Like any devoted born-again Christian I don't pass any opportunity of  telling people about the marvelous works of my savior Jesus Christ of Nazareth.

I threw a couple of questions and I must say I was blown away by his response.

"I am reading poetry because I want to be able to express myself to God."

I love any form of art and its always moving to see a brother respecting the craft.

His passion made me think of the sweet psalmist King David who had a way with words.

Its good that he is taking initiative to grow his relationship with his maker. A number of young people do not bother.

They are living their lives with the blind  hope that God will sort out everything without them taking part.

He is God moss taking care of us while we are busy doing the exact opposite of his word its his duty nhe?

The truth of the matter is that we no longer have to go to great lengths to have God's attention. Even the Society for the Prevention of Cruelty to Animals (SPCA) would be happy with the fact that we no longer slaughter animals to make offerings to our God.

Long and skillfully arranged prayer does not make him understand us better.

He wants us to be his children, children are forgiving and make countless mistakes in the name of growing up.

I find it really cool to just break down before God. He knows the real you and fumbling in his presence means you  acknowledge His role in your life.

There was a lovely story in a book called 'Reaching Out to God'. Sithi kukho lotata that worked with his kid & he regularly asked his kid to lift the table with him and there is no way the child could lift the table on his own and working closely with his father pleased him. They were co-workers and it did not cross his mind that the actual wait of the table was carried by his father.

The moral of the story: God carries the weight of our sins, he is our shield and  he gives us a chance of working with him.

Ukhumbule, He does not need us but we need him. His expertise and vast knowledge of the world would save us big time if we allow him to be God in our lives by that I mean not calling Him only in your hour of need with a bag full of a to do list.

No doubt He is our savior and fighting our battles is what he does gladly and I know He would appreciate a big thank you of obeying his Ten Commandments.

Anyway that's how I see it & nawe feel free and tell me what you think we should do as the new breed that want to leave a holy life in this world.

God bless you.

Don’t Tell Me What To Wear Toya

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I have no beef with Ray Charles granddaughter or anything of that nature.

She's young and successful and from what I see from my flat screen, she's doing what she loves.

If you've lost mother at a young age, I immediately love and want to some how impact your life positively.

It does not matter whether you were raised by a strict Zulu family that did everything within their means to give you a bright future or you spent most of your life moving from one orphanage to another the void that was created by your mothers absence is mutual.

Toya is a beautiful and gifted individual and from what I have gathered she didn't use her famous family name to infiltrate the music industry.

Her uniqueness is talking for her and opening the right doors.

Recently she was announced as the new brand ambassador for LEGit. And I was so disappointed with her winter range. Dark, antique & Texas inspired clothes were hanging on the rack.

I don't want to compare her with the past ambassadors as they have different tastes hayi, Ndiphoxake kodwa its not what I expected.

And it has crossed my mind that maybe I'm not their target market even though I enjoy shopping at LEGit.

LEGit should consider having two ambassadors to cater for their growing clientèle or mix the celeb's style with theirs though that would misrepresent the 'trendsetter'.

Anyway I will visit the shop again to see if 'I have not spoken' to soon.


Facts About Toya Delazy

• She was born Latoya Buthelezi
• She is the granddaughter of Chief Mangosuthu Buthelezi the Inkatha Freedom leader and the great-grand daughter of Princess Magogo
• She released her  first album Due Drop, April 2012.
• She studied Jazz Piano.

Oh the Chief was mistaken for the late singer Ray Charles at Margaret Thatcher's funeral.

So I'm Too Young For God?

This is what I’m told whenever I tell people I’m a born again , blood washed believer.

Haibo, you need to live a little, do what people your age are doing. You need to be saved from  something and wena you’re still young. So they say.

And my question is does Satan ask people their age before leading them astray? Is he interested in your innocence?  NO, his mandate is to do the exact opposite of what God does.I was so surprised to learn that like God he has his trinity. What a copycat.

In some people’s eyes I’d be a better Christian when I have three children with different fathers that would collectively make R1000 a month of social grant- A testimony that the world has tested me.

To them it’s unacceptable for me to be saved and my peers often ask if I’m allowed to date or swear. I guess that’s what keeping them in the world.

Those who want to dim my light, ask me how long have I been saved and my answer never changes- second of September 2006 and they’ll tell me it’s still early.

It’s like people fear this big monstrous failure that’s waiting to devour anyone who calls themselves the obedient children of God.

We are smarter than animals, we have a better ability to see things that could harm us from a distance and  discern from good and  evil.

Salvation is not new,  there are so many young people who have blamelessly  walked this path and kept the faith and we are strengthened daily by the failure of some who also wanted to live this pure life till the end but the ever deceiving Satan trapped them.

May His Soul Rest in Peace?

Rest in Peace seems to be the most sensible thing to say when you hear the devastating news of someone’s passing.

Some people even go as far as saying “they are in a better place now and they will be our angels or ancestors.”

The truth is not everyone that dies goes to heaven. You cannot live your life anyhow and expect to wake up next to gospel greats. Askies, this time around you can’t have your bread buttered both sides. It does not work like that.

Izulu liyasetyenzelwa, alingenwa mahala. You work your way up to heaven (figuratively). It just does not happen, it’s like an art piece, you take time crafting it and make it presentable to the buyer because it’s not yours and one day you’ll hand it over to someone, who has invested in your art and expects to see a good product at the end.

As much as we are the YOLO(you only live once) generation and we don’t want to think about tomorrow or the future. We want to think about now and today Life does not end here and we need to prepare now for eternal life. It’s inevitable but at the same time you chose now what you want.

We are all God’s children and he has given each one of us a chance to repent and live a life worthy of heaven and the hour of grace is now.

When you die without a healthy relationship with God, you’ll go straight to hell. Injalo nje!

I know people don’t want to insult the dead and say horrible things about them but we should not confuse the living.

Mazi enethole.