Some people are apple shaped or hour glass (like me). This shouldn't matter but we should buy clothes that fit our bodies well. Chill ngwanesu nobody died and made me Noni Gasa, a famous stylist. Andazi if I won't be making a blanket statement when I say every woman has experienced weight woes.
Growing up, I was the skinny and bony one. I struggled so hard with the transition of turning to a voluptuous fuller figured woman (34) in my early twenties. And I tried torhwana eating less but that didn't last and drinking 8 glasses of water wasn't practical for me as I love my juice gxebe Cabana.
There is nothing unflattering as seeing a woman with love handles wearing a tight muscle top or a woman with a sagging belly wearing a cropped top with a vest underneath. Wear clothes that accentuate your best features like your African assets (hips and behind). Take time to dress your temple. Please don't torture yourself with wanting someone's petite body. Work with what you have.
Please, please. I beg. Stop wearing figure belts. They clearly do not serve their purpose. With South Africa listed among the top fattest countries in the world, healthy eating should be our priority. Don’t down everything in your sight bosisi bam.
I am not an attention seeker nani nani but I like it when I step into a room eyes starts rolling. It gives me that I have arrived moment. And every woman out there needs that moment. You just can’t walk into a room with your tail in between your legs ngathi yinja ebe amaqanda. You aren't a nobody my dear.
NB: I am always subject to correction Bathong feel free correct me, though I blog what I like :P
I watched a white family walking freely with their disabled
little girl and I stopped and said if only the same could be done by my people.
Honesty it’s rare to see a black family loving and
protecting a child living with a disability. You are likely to find a child
isolated and not given the special treatment they need.
The White child I saw had her wheel-chair wheels decorated
with cartoons and she was genuinely happy and wasn’t portraying something that
is not happening at home.
I know my people aren't well resourced and moneyed like most
White people but we should nje love love and love our children.
I was so hurt a year ago by a story published by Move! magazine about a number of unemployed women in the Eastern Cape who purposely
harmed their unborn babies by drinking poison to deform their fetuses. Kuba
they wanted to cash on the social grant for disabled people to feed their
drinking habit.
I don’t want to say may God strike by lighting those who
molest and abuse children living with disabilities maar something needs to be
done. People have become vultures phandl’apha.
How do you even begin with
forcing yourself on someone who is vulnerable and is not in a position to
protect themselves.
We are taking ten steps backwards bakithi when we stigmatizeillnesses and disabilities. I know it’s not easy to live or even accept a child
living with a disability but there’s a method in God’s madness, you should never mistake
being blessed with a disabled child as a curse God knew that you’d be perfectly
fit to raise a child. AmaXhosa asekhaya athi: “Indlovu ayisindwa ngumboko wayo.”
Before you
yawn let me tell you this ‘gentle sister,’ this post isn't about Generation's
Dineo Mashaba a magazine editor who can't fall pregnant and is pulling all
stops to give her cheating husband an heir. This is real life, real stories and
phenomenal women who amid tough times managed to entertain and educate us through
their respective jobs.
Rockville
actress and producer Connie Ferguson that we grew up watching portraying
wealthy Karabo Moroka for years has had her ovaries removed. Connie has come
out strong and I can say life is good for her and her follow acting hubby Shona
Ferguson and their two daughters. By the way Shona’s mother is Xhosa. *rolling
eyes*
Former
beauty queen turned businesswoman and The Link presenter Lerato Kganyago has
recently had two fibroids that were size of a tennis ball removed from the wall
of her womb. She revealed on Zaziwa that though this decreases her chances of
conceiving she believes all things are possible and she would love to have kids
of her own one day with Moroka Swallows footballer Katlego Mashego.
NthabiMphahlele actress famous for playing
Muvhango's mad Meiki who married her sweetheart early this year journalist
Dennis Tau opened up to Real Magazine about an excruciating pain she had to
live with as young person. The inflicting pain is said to put her conceiving chances at a risk.
These gorgeous women are a testament of not allowing your situation to dictate your life. They didn't sit down and wondered why them, but have embraced their womanhood and didn’t hide behind their celebrity status.
I do not want to sound like a Twitter cop because for
someone like me with two followers my right to brag is non-existent. Excuse me
for not moving on with the times, LOL!
I get really worked up when people who hold influential
positions misuse them. It just gets to me. Even the ones who want to gain
popularity by being 'bitchy'.
I don't know how one feels when they bring others down.
We are not the same vele some are sensitive, others don't give a Tugela river!
We just need to learn to respect each other qha ke!
I am as nosy as they come but getting my hands all muddy
and dirty with people I claim to care about doesn't make sense. So when you
tweet trash about someone why do you feel the need to tag them?
What are you hoping to achieve, we all fool around and
have our preferences but why the need to shove it at people's face. Is it
attention seeking or trying to be cool among your peers at someone's expense?!
I have read the two letters that were sent to Khaya
Dlanga anonymously by women who were voicing out their frustrations after
dumping their cheating boyfriends. At
the end of both letters I more was worried about the women who wrote them
rather than the so called losers. The anger that we direct to some people is
actually the window that gives people an idea about our bitterness.
I for one don't even have the guts to tag someone when I
have said something good about them because I don't want them to think I'm
buying their faces or looking for a retweet. That's just me and my pride.
Then there are those who try to water down the negativity
that some folks have NYONYOBAD on Twitter by saying we shouldn't take anything
that happens there seriously.C’mon! Our
Tweets are an indication of what's going on your head so please nantsika!
I
have decided to compile a list of influential people whose career path is worth
following and supporting.
If
you have taken time and read my blog you would know that I love the
entertainment industry. I strongly believe in giving people the recognition
they deserve, yeah man we ought to celebrate our fellow black men who are
making a difference out there. We can't over look their efforts to change our
society.
The
first one has to be Zibanani Madumo also known as Oneal, though I came to know
of him through Big Brother Africa the Chase. Nje ngesiqhelo I snooped around, did
a background check on him. Oneal is rapper, a club and radio DJ currently based
in Botswana but plans on moving to eMzantsi to broaden his horizons.
He
was raised in an impoverished and notorious township called Phikwe. His road
to stardom wasn’t served to him on a silver platter as he had to beg radio
stations to give him a chance. On Big Brother he narrated his story on how he
used to sleep on a studio awaiting any opportunity that would come along for
him to seize the moment. He also explained how reading books helped improve his
communication skills. He’s often quoted by his BBA supporters as saying “he is a
rose that grew in concrete.”
He
is currently raising funds for project he is working on to get young people to
read. And I’m crossing fingers that results into him penning an autobiography.
I
don't know what cave have you been living in if you don't know who Sbusiso Leopeis. At
36 he has achieved so much, born and bred in Tembisa. Sbu, the number one
knocks man as he is affectionately known, is not only a partner to South
Africa's most successful record company, TS Records. Which is home to the internationally-recognised
star, Zahara who took the entertainment industry by storm when her debut album
Loliwe sold out. Dj
Sbu is also a radio and TV presenter as well as the president of SLEF foundation in his many titles. As part of his philanthropic work, he has funded
a number of tertiary students. He is set to release his first book on December
02 of which he claims it will focus more on business rather than his personal
life.
Khaya
Dlanga who hails from Dutyini in Mount Ayliff’ story is like a fairy tale. If
you are a believer you'd agree with the Word of God when it says everything
works for the good for those who believe.
Khaya
left Mdantsane for Mother City, armed with only a R500 and a little bag (in
case things didn't work out) but today has several awards under his belt; for
best blogger and for his work at Coca Cola. He was part of the initiative,
facilitated by Pan MacMillan, called the ‘Youngster’s’ and authored a book
titled ‘In My Arrogant Opinion’. His life story proves nothing can stop a
determined soul because he started from the bottom now he’s eating the fruit of
his sweat.
City Press Pic
Shaka
Sisulu, the son of our parliament speaker Max Sisulu and yes, the grandchild of
our struggle icons, Walter and Nontsikelelo Sisulu.
Shaka
is radio presenter and now is part of the new team deployed to stabilize the
ANCYL after the havoc that was caused by EFF founder Julius Juju Malema during
his presidency.
He
is also part of the ‘Youngster’s’ series and has released a book called 'Becoming'. His aim is
to stimulate the youth’s interest in reading.
It’s
not everyday that you find a 30 year old having a booming business, but Sizwe Dhlomo’s
made giant footsteps not only in the entertainment industry but his restaurant
has made a name for itself.
The
former live presenter is also doing well as the dj on Y Fm. Sizwe
is not only a CUTIE but a smarty too and Tweeps nicknamed him Dhloogle lol. A
search engine of some sort due to his vast knowledge about EVERYTHING.
These
melanin advantaged brothers as Khaya would say have proven beyond doubt that
life in the entertainment industry is not all about glitz and glamour but you have
to go an extra mile to get the result and be a blessing along the way.
It pains me
that my sisters and brothers have decided to personify diseases and ungodly
practices.
It’s okay
to accept that an illness has made your body a host but don't make it yours.
Ayinguwe tu kaloku!
It does not
and shouldn't define who you are. Do not allow it to limit your abilities.
I was so
proud when I saw a woman who has full blown aids wearing a sleeveless top and
going about her day.
People tend
to stigmatize certain diseases an act like only promiscuous people acquire
them.
Andiyazi
but we should move away from discriminating people based on what they have
contracted. Umntu ngumntu regardless of
an opportunistic illness that made their body a victim.
For years I
had asthma and needed to be oxygenated whenever the rainy season loomed. And it
took a woman of God at Christian boarding school I attended to free me from 'my
chronic illness.'
She asked
if I had really accepted Christ if so then my family should testify by seeing
Jesus the healer evident in my life.
Bear in
mind when she said this, I couldn't breathe and needed my 'oxygen' desperately
but her words haunted me and I took it to God in prayer.
Some
believe, you can outgrow asthma but I believe it was the finished work of
Calvary that healed me. It’s all about stretching your faith.
Doubtlessly
I believe in awareness and taking the necessary precautions but we should not
humanize diseases. And be okay with being called the face of ... And of ...
Don't brand
yourself as the positive one. When you step into a room let's not see you as
that woman living with HIV and Aids. You are more than that. You were created
in the image and likeness of God. A virgin had to give birth for you to be
here. Meaning the impossible had to be made possible for you and I.
Kwaye self-pity is never an option. Stay
strong.
You must be wondering, why most of my titles have question marks nhe? Ingxaki I have questions than answers. That I cannot help!!!
Maybe I am forever scarred by the brutality that french people shown to Sarah Baartman that I can't appreciate women who parade themselves for a good cause.
My question is do we need to strip naked to be heard? Perhaps I have missed the memo that said in order for women to be equal game players they need to go exotic.
We are people of great influence and every kid out there knows sex sells. If we conform to this, the next generation won't be spared in degrading themselves to secure their social standing.
Parading our bodies in this undignified manner makes us look like loose cannons. There are plenty of ways of retaliating against social ills.
It's good to think outside the box but we shouldn't be the ones perpetuating indecency.
I'm old fashioned. I know but I liked how women in the sixties picketed. They managed to get their voices heard without going all Delilah...
Women can literally put up with anything.
Iyakwazi lanto ufukamela amaqanda abolileyo ngelokufihla ihlazo lomzi walo.
I am always thrown back when people judge women who stay in abusive relationships.
I believe most of them are waiting for that I have had enough moment. And when that moment finally present itself, you better pray you not close by to feel their wrath.
Sadly to some it never comes and they die in the hands of their loved ones.
I can't find it in my heart to forgive that Silvertown woman who allowed old men to do as they lusted in her underage daughter in exchange for a beer.
And the women that do nothing after they have heard how their spouses secretly molested their babies.
Its our duty as women to shield what we love and doubtlessly sacrifice our own happiness to see it blossom into something wonderful.
Having mentioned all this I still pride myself in being a woman in Africa. Though we are not there yet in terms of eradicating women abuse, human tracking, poverty but I know with the strength that God has bestowed in us we can do it.
Phumzile Mlambo-Ngcuka our first female deputy president is a perfect example of how high we can spread our wings. She was recently appointed as new UN Women Executive Director.
Let me partake on this weave and natural hair debate that has never reached any conclusion.
It makes perfect sense for Africans to grow their natural hair.
I'm sure the Westerners are laughing at us now.
Have you seen a white woman putting on a dead black woman's hair? Or rocking a Pitch Black Afro wig?
My primary School teacher often said Ubuhle bentombi zinwele zayo so what happens when you are wearing synthetic or worse Brazilian weave.
Doesn't it bother you that fake hair is mostly sold in Brazil and India where poverty rates is escalating? They are likely encouraged to sell their human hair to make ends meet. Euww!
It's an undeniable fact that the minute you take if off the counter and pay few thousands it becomes yours? Right?!
I don't want to be too religious on you because its not my place but I think we are selling ourselves short.
To me, seeing a black sassy woman in a weave represents a lost generation.
We have detached from who we are and we subconsciously allowed the media to dictate to us what true beauty is.
You are not your hair but its part of who you are.
Love and appreciate the kinky hair you were born with.
I wrestled with my thoughts regarding this post. I had to sit myself down and try to understand what is really going on because I don't want to get my curious, caring self into something that is bigger than me. But the good outweighed the bad and here I am defending Feza Kessy.
Its crystal clear that as 'adults' we are weary of the decisions we make and their consequences.
Feza Kessy to me represented not only Tanzania on Big Brother Africa8 dubbed the Chase but women at large.
She gave us herself. Though Hakeem Mandaza claimed the diary sessions were edited, I still hold on to that belief that BBA was raw and unscripted.
She didn't go in the house and marketed herself as expected or created a front of what she wanted people to see her as.
One time she admitted that she did not want Africa to see the submissive and vulnerable woman that she is.
In a way she is a mirror of ordinary African women. Not perfect but trying her level best to change herself. She once confessed that if it wasn't for the Word(bible) she wouldn't be as grounded.
I admire and respect women that aren't afraid to be seen at their worst.
To me she epitomized beauty. She didn't bother with pimping herself up because she knew she is naturally beautiful. She is that kind that makes clothes look dashing not the other way around.
The negative comments from people who have never been confined in a room with a bunch of strangers from different countries is a bit too much. Even from former housemates who never let their guards down and admitted that they too pulled strings here and there to up their game.
Its okay not to agree with the way a person conducts herself on international tv but the personal attacks maan, ain't cool. Like the former beauty queen likes saying; its never that serious!!!
On the other hand I liked O’Neal Zibanani Madumo. Fairly because I saw a part of me in him lol not him being a wordsmith or emotionless.
He is realistic, analytical(which is often confused as gossip) and he doesn't force himself on people. He lives by his motto: “Walk in the room assuming everyone hates you”
And the bro is arrogantly-humble if there is such a word. I wish he makes a woman out of Feza. Does that mean I condone... I don't know but I sincerely wish them all the best.
And cut the poor guy some slack, he said he is a struggling Christian (before you say, aren't we all? Consider the fact he is actually working on his salvation).
Like Feza, he spoke his mind while fully aware that Africa may not like his utterances. He despised the fear that is instilled in most housemates about West Africa and their reps.
Truthfully if you don't stand for anything, you will fall for everything.
Ngaphakoko BBA is not a reality show, where we should be looking for morals. Having said that I don't want to contradict myself because I support the Christians that boycotted the 'shower hour' that is viewed by VIP holders who paid R70 to see housemates naked.
Oh I must add I liked Bimp and Nando's bromance. And I pray that Nando who was disqaualified last night sorts himself up and he is way too cute (I just had to say that nothing more or less).
I am not vouching for my favourites to win the $300,000 They should go and work for their own. Their mission is accomplished. Africa knows who Feza Kessy is. I liked that priceless moment when the Dj played her song and Oneal asked him to play it back. It was epic. Everyone could attest to when you humble yourself, God will lift you up.
One blood, One love and One Africa *in Bimp's voice* Lungelwa says so!!!
One of the nicest thing about my inservice training was boarding the train with domestic workers.
Man these people are full of life and its safe to say there is never a dull moment when they around.
The story that cracks me up to date is this one:
'Beauty' started working for a new Ngamla and she wrote a to do list on
the fridge. As expected Beauty did everything on the list and later went
to the kids bedroom to watch movies. The madam arrived from work to
find her on the bedroom with her legs against the wall, giggling non-mad stop
with the kids. The madam bed was not made up and dishes were mounting on
the kitchen sink.
Ma'am got so agitated and needed an explanation before sending her to the next taxi to Khayelitsha. Beauty politely took the list off the fridge
and told her that she did everything on the list and if she were to
check everything is spotless like she asked.
Moral of Beauty's story: Don't tell her what to do. She has been a
domestic worker all her life and knows what needs to done. If you don't
communicate well with her, she will teach you a lesson.
You would swear they work for the government or something.
But some are not that motivated. A mama that I befriended because we
worked at the same town, confessed that she keeps the best clothes for
church and just wear rags to work. Sad shame.
Tjo some DO NOT want to retire. They are so old that they can't even walk properly. I don't know how they manage to get the job done.
I always lol when others brag about working for a wealthy Mlungu on the Northern Suburbs. Yhe wethu its not your house.
Death catches all of unexpectedly. No one really prepares for their
departure though we are fully aware that we are indeed visitors on this
earth.
But what makes people who bank not lesser than 30 grand on a good week not to pay burial societies?
Like I have said before life is nothing but a breath and it is for the
living. The minute you gasp the last heavy breath and kiss this earth
goodbye. Your book gets stored in the land of those that we will only
see on the second coming of our Lord and saviour Jesus the Nazarene.
After resurrection that is!!!
I too have contributed to a celebrity's burial. It was one of those
cases that the star, now a shadow of their former self is forced by a
record label owner to make his/her last television appearance by
begging the public to assist them on mounting health bills which quickly
turns into burial assistance as their health sadly deteriorates.
My question though is, you have seen how a number of people who once
used the fast lane you like have ended up being buried in government
cemeteries or their family had to go to money lenders uyokuquma
elihlazo ulishiyileyo.
Why has it never crossed your mind to pay or save for desperate times?
Retailers, football clubs are now cashing up in the burial industry.
Some people are even saying owning a funeral parlor is good way of
making money.
I don't know the clauses of the contract that an artist and a recording
company signs but it must be compulsory for both parties to have a
written agreement of debiting certain amount of money that will be fixed
for the artist's burial.
I know its not easy to pay money for years and not having someone dying but should a person die then it would be of great help.
Plus it would cut some slack those insurance ads that the SABC forces us to watch!
I have noticed the trend among Joyous Celebration alumni's of venturing to other genres after serving the choir.
I think it was last year when Nkanyiso Bhengu announced that after years
of worshipping God the Father he had decided to sing Disco music.
Apparently he did not want his music to be boxed and wants to reach a wider audience.
Swazi Dlamini did not surprise me when she released a jazz inspired
album and even now there is plenty of chilled sounds on her gospel Mino.
Idol winner, Khaya Mthethwa who wowed thousands of South African's last
year when he became the first person of color to be crowned as the utmost winner.
Juggles both worlds.
Thabo Mduli who describes himself as a fly Christian(I think I am one
too lol) offered music lovers a pop album which was slightly different
to his previous sound. I mean his music has always been inspired by RnB.
I think.
Having not followed Asanda Bam's journey on JC, I was so perplexed to learn that she was once part of the team.
Then there is Sechaba Pali allow me to say he is an embarrassment to
the gospel fraternity. Not only was he charged with statutory rape but
he allegedly said he thought the 15 year old he had a sexual encounter
with was 17.
I say its okay to come clean and admit the fact you are just making money bhuti!
He unearthed shocking news on Drum. He claimed half of the choir on Joyous during his time drank tjo!
I don't want to dismiss his claims altogether but it really posed a serious question. Not only in the choir but to Gospel music as a whole. Is it just business and not element of redemption in their music.
Doubtlessly Lindelani Mkhize, Jabu Hlongwane and Mthunzi Namba changed
the gospel scene aphe'khaya but their efforts are plummeted with
disgrace.
Generally I avoid being a ladder that faithfully lifts people to
their destination but remain in the same place. This doesn't seem to
bother gospel peeps anyway that's how I see it!
The house of God is the bridge between the rich and poor. Its where everyone is equal.
Times are evolving and technology plays a huge role in our lives but I
believe the saints shouldn't conform to the standards of this world. In
actual fact it must the world copying us Bazalwane.
Preaching from an ipad for me is not ideal.
What happens when the battery dies in the middle of a sermon? Or on your
way to a revival notorious kids rob you of your belongings?
A Christian comedian on Thabo Mdluli's show mentioned that if it was
today the two stone tablets that Moses held, could have been ipads.
I'm one of those that gladly hold the bible close to my heart when I go
to church sort of making my neighbours aware that I'm going to church.
And reading the bible from my phone in the train might lead people into thinking "ndidlala u-facebook."
Maybe I am still stuck in the past. But I love the song that says give
me the old time religion. It was good enough for brother Paul and Silas,
it is good enough for me.
It pains me when I invite people to church and they decline because they
don't have proper clothes. To some extent church services have turned
into modeling ramps.
We have forgotten the great commission. And bible verses that reminds
us not to be like the world. I guess that idiom that says if you can't
beat them, join them is true to some peeps.
Move! magazine carried articles asking if there should be restrictions
on how congregants dress. It was pointed out that you can't dress like
you going to a club and one should respect the holy sanctuary.
We shouldn't compete with the world. We are not of the world. One time I
rolled my eyes so hard such that my iris tried to pop out. A sis was
dissing people who wear fake lashes whilst she was putting on a weave?!!
That's a perfect example of judging people who sin differently than
you.
This is the most sensitive topic for me but I will try tackling it with
all due respect and not offend anyone because that's not what I'm
about.
What has driven me to finally blog about this situation is the
negativity of how it has been broadcasted by international and local
media houses.
Hundreds of initiates 'perishing in Mpumalanga and the Eastern Cape'
should make headlines as to bring attention to the silent killer. And
not condemn the practice.
But what is driving the prospect man to defy all odds and put their lives at risk?
They have heard of people who lose their manhood in the bushes and how Amakhankatha corrupts innocent boys!
Removing the foreskin in hospital is always an option but why most initiates to be, don't consider it?
Coming of age symbolizes a lot of things and it shows that you have
moved from one stage to another and its important that one follows the
right procedures and not take the easy way out even though it sometimes
mean putting your life on a cliff.
Circumcision is our covenant with God you remember when Father Abraham got circumcised on the same day with his son?
Yazi nawe everything that God has made Holy spontaneously work for the good for those who practice it.
It has been scientifically proven that the removal of a foreskin decreases one's chances of acquiring HIV.
We have seen tribes who had previously ignored this old Xhosa custom encouraging their boys to get circumcised.
I know my government does not want to abolish this old tradition but I
fear the intervention of the West might corner them as they always do.
By no means do I try to overlook the fact that a number of people have
lost their lives. And the fact that many are still nursing psychological
and physical scars that have been left by the loss of manhood but let's
figure a way of making it work.
It hasn't been long that the nation bid farewell to witty, charismatic
broadcasting legend Vuyo Mbuli but 'stunts' keep surfacing.
Reputable magazines followed Sunday Paper’s trail of telling us
how the 'estranged ' wife is living her life and how she is a publicity
seeker anyway I will leave that to your judgement.
As much as I believe the dead should bury the dead and life is for the
living with the late Vuyo I kinda bend my own rules. There is always an
exception wethu.
But so you know I always support the wife who vowed not only
before witnesses, family, friends but to God to stand by her man 'in
sickness and health'. I respect that institution man!
It is reported that Savita is now living as a prisoner in her own home
after an alleged hitman from Durban informed her of a plot to kill her.
I respected Nomakula Robert’s decision of not entertaining the rumour
that she dated the late vetaran but that later changed when she poured
her heart to Heat Magazine.
Maybe she was playing the game and creating hype for her participation Strictly Come Dancing
six.
We don't grieve the same way and its important to give one another
space.
Trying to understand what is happening Emagcakeni akwaMbuli is
out of our reach. I don't want to go Tyler Perry on you(Preach) but in
my not so trained view there is a thin line between public interest
and tarnishing peoples reputation!
A good thing though is seeing how Noleen Maholwana kaSangqu and Basetsana Khumalo are supporting their girlfriend.
I know the picture is not in harmony with the post but I liked it.
Man this kid is talented, He is not a sought-after producer nje, we can't take that away from him can we?!
Yall know satan is an opportunist but one author explained this beautifully. He said if you not filled with the Holy Spirit you are
certainly filled with Lucifa.
In simple terms my friend willingly or not lucifa is dancing in your
heart and calling the shorts if you dust your bible on sundays only or
during funerals.
How did he manage to twist the arm of Donda's one and only baby who once
professed "...But if I talk about God my record won't get played Huh?"
When you are vocal about the social ills rest assured that you have made satan your enemy.
He is a smart, patient chap that waste no time in destroying what God has fearfully made.
He firstly sweeps you off your feet by flashing money and a
breath-taking future that in your right mind, you can't say No to. Who
doesn't want to be wealthy and lack noting? Huh?
More like those evil Madala's that hold influential positions that can
make things HAPPEN for you provided that you do them a small favor(you
don't want me to mention it, do you?).
I believe this is what happened to Kanye: Whoever controls the media
sort of laid rules and made it crystal clear what he expects from his
ambassadors.
For example most satanist are forced to kill immediate family members in order to progress in their satanic life.
This is aimed at making them ruthless beings that only want to get the
job done and in the process it kills the connection they have with their
loved ones. And rely solely to the devil.
One of the prerequisite of illuminati's is to blaspheme God and recruit others in their quest of making this world lawless.
Its a fact that Kanye is no stranger to controversy but what makes him
sink so deep into challenging God. I don't want to think he doesn't know
what he has gotten himself into. A son of a church counselor knows
better.
I dont want to rant about what he has done that makes me believe that he is challenging God. A google search might help you on that one.
A more detailed post about illuminati will follow.
It is highly discouraged for a sister to meddle or admire the marital
life but I can not help but poke my nose to 'soul mates' that sing
together.
God created us to worship him day in and out. How awesome it must be to
some of our stars who are faithful to their heavenly Father by joining
Heavenly Beings in worship.
You often hear at our local churches that praise starts at home, without a doubt some households practice it.
The love between Nqubeko Mbatha and Ntokozo Mbatha is 'beyond word's. I
remember when they were both nominated for the same category and it was scooped by the Mbatha Queen she just humbly went on stage and
recited her hubby's clan names.
The couple is blessed with two cuties though I haven't seen a picture, I
can confidently say the two breeds harmoniously offspring with
Ntokozo's beauty and Nqubeko's charm that would be a lovely combo.
Thabo & Nonhlanhla Mdluli
On the other hand Thabo and Nontlantla Mduli ignite fire on stage. The
love and respect these two have melts my heart. With them I kinda change
my perception that getting married these days is like that indemnity
form that one signs before having a heart surgery- chances of dying are
soo high.
Bongi & Collin
I must confess I didn't get the Bongi and Colin duet. I felt like they
are better apart, musically that is but there is something about them
that makes me to stop whatever I'm doing and listen.
This sacred institution has lost its value on society. Seeing public
figures that are determined to make it work under the scrutiny of people
who probably go to their kittens and dogs when the sunsets but have
the audacity to spot the cracks in people's lives when the sun arises.
Keep blessing us with your music ministries and making the word of God heard by the Gentiles ndinithanda thandi!!!
I do not see the fuss around schools having segregated matric balls.
One thing we should refrain from is forcing ourselves to Whites.
I was born in the late eighties and frankly I was privileged enough not to experience apartheid.
The only memories I have of this 'devious past' is that in my hood
whenever my late mama shouted nantsi ihagu-the huge truck that was used
by apartheid enforcers, I would subconsciously hide under the table.
Horrible things occurred between 1948 till 1993. Comrades disappeared,
the amazing Black Conscience Leader Steve Bantu Biko was tortured by
brutal prison warders and died in their custody. Chris Thembisile Hani was assassinated in 1993(I for one see foul play there remember it was
during the Convention for a Democratic South Africa negotiations between Tamkhulu Nelson Rholihlahla
Mandela, F. W. De Klerk and others).
The Truth and Reconciliation Committee brought more sorrows than closure
as families had to watch intense video clips of how their loved ones died in
the mercy of abelungu and the sell outs blacks who for the benefits of
their loved ones betrayed their people and inflicted pain.
Nothing and I repeat nothing can wipe away the image of Gugulethu 7 and the Sharpville massacre to name just a few.
Twenty years after apartheid and we still dancing to its tunes. Fori ntoni maan. Surely igazi labo zange liphalale nje.
I've read stories about certain Afrikaners who have created their
own village in Tshwane.
I want to proclaim Afrika for Africans but let's not be selfish and
reintroduce apartheid slowly by chanting words that sow disintegration
and hatred towards each other.
Those who are old say the National Party lead government made mixed race
people believe they are better than Blacks and should work closer with
them to attain their approval of being human & made black South
Africans believe their are better than their fellow Africans.
How is all this related to the separate send-off for grade 12s. Simple
dear, the big beautiful trees we see are kept together by their roots and
it would be pointless to cut a tree from its stems and leaving the
powerful roots.
If we sincerely want to curb racial segregation, my leaders should
firstly try to root out racism and the belief certain races are superior
than others.
We all breath the same air and we all excrete faeces and our blood
colour is the
same, black or white we are all the same and if kids are
not comfortable with one another forcing them to bond would create
unnecessary resentment.
Meanwhile parents should try instilling good values on their kids because they reflect what is happening at home.
We tend to focus more on senseless things and not uncover the cancer that is slightly eating up ubuntu.
Anyway this is how I see it, it does not have to be correct. Feel free and tell me your thoughts 'comrade'
Ordinarily we expect parents to take care of the needs of their children and devote their time in making sure that they have everything they need but that is not the case with Masixole Gilana, at 23 life has hit him hard but through it all he stood his ground and persistent to make an honest living.
Masixole, originally from a small village few kilometres from Centane called Gqunqe joined hundreds of Eastern Capers in 2006 and headed to the Mother City.
The transition was not smooth and easy as he struggled to adjust to the fast paced city life.
Back in Gqunqe everyone knew who he was and didn't battle for his Aunt's business to be noticed as he often had to accompany his aunt who sold woven mats to pensioners.
He found himself immersed into this big city life but had to grow out of it quickly and find a way of making things work, "I enrolled at Mandela High School in Crossroads to do my grade ten and I was staying with my older sister and brother so I decided to sell snacks to make ends meet and this continued throughout my high school years.
My teachers and classmates didn't expect me to pass because my attention was so divided, little did they know that I slept after 2 pm trying to catch up.
I truthfully enjoyed this, I had a timetable and I stuck by it.
I then worked as a cashier for Kentucky Fried Chicken for eleven months and when that period ended I applied to be a Stock Controller at Game Stores and I tirelessly worked there for five months but got bored and resigned. I was so used being my own boss.
I applied for a six month Business Management course at Cape Town College and in between classes and assignments I lived a double life as train vendor to support my studies and my basic needs.
Social Life As busy as I am I still make time for friends and family. I love watching TV and going out with friends and I try to make time for them but I don't want to be like those guys at Ekasi that start their weekend on Thursdays and finish it off with a Phuza Monday.
Challeges & Hopes For His Business
I'm passionate about entrepreneurship and being my own boss though a small business has its own challeges. Like here there are many of us and I try to distinguish myself from the rest by selling fruit and snacks. So far I'm the only one doing that.
I'd make more money when I have a stand because being mobile means leaving some snacks though I don't want to sell andinayo.
Plans For The Future
I'm looking for a job because being a vendor now is challenging with Metro Rail chasing us and not wanting us to operate from their stations. Plus I'm not comfortable with the environment.
Masixole enrolled at the Cape Peninsula University of Technology to study National Diploma in Entrepreneurship and funds his education, something his colleagues would see as a setback and a sign to give up and join oomahlalela elokshini.
Let's change this world by being the best we can be and remember tough times do not last but tough people do.
I hope you are blessed by his story as I am so shiya owakho umzila.
OMG! I don't know whether they are trained to lie and sell people whatever they seem to be interested in.
Following consumers around and telling them prices without even asking for them is their daily struggle. I mean I will yell or indicate when I need help.
Long back I visited a retail store that sells expensive clothes. A woman who wears what looked like size 40 was fitting a tight dress that didn't flatter her love handles and she asked the assistant if the dress was okay on her, she didn't hesitate and told her its a right cut for her.
Me not wanting to sound rude and jealous I walked away in dismay...
I love the colour purple, biblically it has a meaning and I won't share it with you hardy. I needed a bag but a saw a pink one at a boutique close to where I work.
And I asked if they had the bag in purple, My Word, the assistant started telling me how everyone wanted that bag and and I must admit it was not the best they had and didn't see a reason to go on & on kuba ibingekho caba yabo but I wanted it lol.
I know the goods need to be off the shelves and the big bosses want to count profit at the end of the month qondile but forcing people to take home things they don't need is bad, horrible.
Like Oomatshonisa that keep on lending to people who clearly have a mounting debt.
Yhoo its so worse for people that get social grants as illegal as it is they have no choice but to leave their bank cards(obvious ne-pin alok) and I'd's with the lenders. Its business baba akudlalwa.
I strongly believe in black empowerment and liberating our minds but we too need to say kwanele!
Kwanele in everything the lying shop assistants,
Kwanele to corrupt leaders,
Kwanele to mediocre education,
Kwanele to being treated as second citizens kulomZantsi Afrika!
Ja I just wanted to vent, nothing more o less! Remember that KFC add I'm hungry and angry its all about ngry ngry!!!
I have seen how defensive Kenny Kunene was when Democratic Alliance
spokesperson Mmusi Maimane challenged his decision of following in Hugh
Hefner's footprints.
Kenny admitted in live radio that he slept with his students while he
was a teacher and then made a u-turn claiming the girls he taught were
older than him. Making it unreasonable to say he was involved in a
statutory rape.
What boggles my mind the most about his 'publicity stunts' is how he
disrespects women, I'm not going to comment about his rather rude reply
to "the glorified garden boy" Maimane.
City Press
I'm fully aware that he didn't point a knife to the 'army' as he calls
them but like any father he has a responsibility to protect and support
the daughters of the soil not use them in exchange for money and the 'good life'
With the increasing rape cases it would be only fair for people in the
limelight to stand against any form of rape. We need a louder voice to
rebuke this monster.
Liking it or not once you have become a public figure and claiming to be wealthy too, the youth immediately want to be like you and it's not your fault it comes with the territory.
In my eyes jump starting a career in the porn industry will fuel this 'outrage.' It's
no secret that this is a money making business and there is no
emotions attached to it but why?
Kuphele other promising business opportunities that could be beneficiary
to him and his 'crew'? I second Gayton McKenzie's move of distancing
himself from the so not smart journey that Kenny has 'embarked' on.
There is a difference between controversy and self destruction hayi ke not to mention recruiting youngsters for.. !
Skool me folks who granted TopTv the license to broadcast porn and is it possible for it to be revoked?
Porn, like gambling can be addictive and I think its just a waste of
airtime and abusing the platform of impacting the masses positively.
I'm one of those who watched Morning Live to see Vuyo Mbuli, he was the life of the show.
Even as I write this I can't believe, he's no more. It was so
unexpected and out of the way but when God has decided who are we to
question him!
I pray that his family, friends, colleagues and fans find comfort in
knowing Vuyo did his part and excelled at it and the honest truth is, he
is irreplaceable.
He was no average anchor and it was always beautiful to see how well he engaged his guests and making them feel at home.
No matter how serious and complicated the issue analysed, he never
compromised his standards -a hand shake after each interview was
guaranteed.
Those that have had an opportunity of meeting him all agree that he was an eloquent and down to earth man.
From presenting the show with swollen feet after participating in the
Comrade Marathon and asking the cameraman to zoom in to give us at home a sneak
preview of his experience to teasing his co-workers and reading tweets
live, everyday was extraordinary.
He was a true testament that you are blessed to be a blessing.
We are greatfull for the little time that we watched, laughed while being informed of current affairs..
I came across this quote by the Minister in the Presidency for
Performance Monitoring and Evaluation, Collins Chabane. it moved me and I
hope it does the same to you too.
"I further call on young and aspiring journalists to strive for
excellence as Mr Vuyo Mbuli did, he has left his mark and walked his
journey with pride. May his soul rest in peace!"
It's reportedly that he collapsed while watching a rugby match between
the Cheetahs and the Reds at the Free State Stadium on Saturday night.
He was treated at the scene before being rushed to the Medi-clinic
hospital, where he later died at the age of 46.
Facts About Our Dear Vuyo:
He was a teacher by profession and a linguist
One of the seasoned presenters that joined the show in November 1999 and
I admit maybe I'm not moving with times or I missed the note that said
'celebrities or their loved ones' should dress dashing for their court
appearances.
Jub Jub/Facebook
Lawyers cost a fortune- they don't carry those suitcases for sweet
nothing and wearing designer clothes is not kind to the pocket lol.
No need to fuss just wear a simple black attire that screams I'm
remorseful for what I've done and given a second chance, messing with the law would not spring up to mind.
Clothes can communicate the nasty thoughts that should be buried deep in one's grey matter.
I'm not saying people must cheat but dress appropriately for the situation they are in.
Nam in my small world I occasionally turn to clothes to stimulate my
mood for example if its my turn to do the dishes I wear my highest of heels
and immediately feel the strength I need to get the 'job' done. That
is just me!
Back to the subject: What makes these powerful man and women succumb to
the pressure of dressing to the nines when they are in a situation where
they probably don't even have time to worry about the simple things in
life?
Is the possibility of not seeing the sun again somehow make them want to parade their wealth again?
If you have watched Queen Latifah and LL Cool J's Last Holiday you will
remember that When Queen was diagnosed with a deadly sickness. she
stopped caring about the simple things in life that mattered the most to
her and vigorously splashed most of her money into an expensive
holiday.
Ekasi there is this growing culture among Oomahlalela of dressing up for funerals only senditsho nje!
Trash is collected on Tuesday in my hood and its so bad to see people digging deep in people's receptacles looking for recyclable goods.
To them its a job and they do it with everything they got but I wish we
could meet them half way and separate reusable waste to make it easier
for them.
I know this won't be adopted by my people. We like seeing others half into our disposables. (Prove me wrong my sister & bro).
Mondoza saw this long time ago "umnto'mnyama akafuni ukubona omunye esiya phambili PHEZULU."
Apparently this is called 'Pull Her/Him Down" syndrome, PHD in short. And it has made its nest close to where my people reside.
You see it everywhere you go, like any qualification it has its standard, first & middle class folks are seen eagerly participating.
"If we don't litter the cleaners will be out of jobs(black tendency
right there)," that is what I'm told whenever I raise the issue.
I am not an environmentalist or a neatness freak but since my primary
school days , when retailers started selling plastics bags because they
thought it would decrease pollution and it won't decorate our country I sort of wanted
to protect the 'earth' too cause it sounded cool!
I urge you to support those who are making a business out of 'dirt' and are keeping our environment clean in the process.
I met Asiphe Nombewu on a selection interview at the Cape Peninsula
University of Technology. We were a group of three girls but sadly the
other girl did not make it.
On the day of Orientation we met Siphesihle Notwabaza a very vibrant and talkative Centanian.
I remember that day vividly. We were going to the Campus library and
Asiphe affectionately known as Khody teased Sihle because he was talking
non-stop.
At first I thought he was a second year student cause he blended well with everyone.
Together with Gcobisa Sizani who went on to study Nursing at the
University of the Western Cape and Sibulele Stemele we formed an on and
off friendship.
What made us clicked beside studying the same course was our passion for arts and entertainment.
I think I'm talking for everyone when I say media is a powerful tool, a great source of influence.
It somehow control or dictate the lives of millions of people and if
used correctly it would change the whole world. No propaganda here so
take a chill pill lol.
Towards the end of 2011 my friends wanted us to give back to our respective communities and help at an orphanage for disable kids. It was a
great idea and would help us forge a strong friendship but knowing
myself I had to decline.
I am an emotional wreck though I love kids with all my heart, watching a
'helpless' child struggling to breathe would paralyse my soul (pun not
intended).
Come December holidays I had to go home and when I got there an extended
family child who was paralysed from waste down had moved in and we had
to spend a couple of days with him. A handsome boy if I must add.
The first few days were fine, we got along though he also had difficulty with speech.
So he called me and said "I want to poof" and I could not believe my
ears. Couldn't he have waited for the elders to return from work and
then relieve himself?
It took a good twenty minutes or so for me move him from where he was
sitting to the bathroom and he was giggling all the way, I was dead
scared cause he was shaking nevertheless we did what we had to do, me
& Zikho and brought him back to his spot.
My grandmother came back from work and the kid told her everything and
that how he fooled us into believing that he was immobile.
Fast forward to 2012, there was so much happening in my life and I was in a position where everything was meaningless.
I arrived late at Tech and found Asiphe and Sihle at the computer lab.
There was this bad vibe between us and even the bubbly Sihle was tense.
They later told me that they were planning an 'intervention' and they
have observed that ever since I got a place of my own I stopped
attending classes.
I smiled and counted my blessings. Their warmth and love meant a
lot and I thank God for making our journey stop at the same station.
I hate posthumous awards, I don't understand what inspired their
inception that's why I decided to share what we have been through and
how blessed I am to have you guys in my life.
I pray that you grow and be the successful individuals you aspire to be
and most importantly don’t believe your own hype and forget that having Jesus in your lives
is the beginning of wisdom.
My heart is heavy with the rape stories that we read about everyday.
Honestly they are not just stories that we should forget. They are
people, they have experienced so much & no compensation or lengthy
jail sentences can replace what have been 'illegally or inhumanly been
taken away from them.
How gruesome do we want these 'stories' to get. Are we that deaf to the
cries of innocent children. I know my government has established special
courts but it feels like they have not done anything. I have not seen
any decline qha its increasing.
A stern warning needs to be sent. We can't have our children raped as if its the coolest thing to do.
Andazi what needs to be done but the clock is ticking. Its reportedly that every four minutes a person is raped in South Africa and one in every three women will be raped in their life time.
Sadly we have become the rape capital in the world. Sodom and Gomorrah to be precise.
But at whose expense? Whose life are we putting on the line?
We have lost Ubuntu that's set us apart from other nations. A father that
leaves next door didn't think twice about instilling good values on children and
how one should behave among old people. Not today!
They are no longer feared heads of household.
They have turned into ruthless, heartless beings ( not all of them).
I have heard some rape because it makes them feel powerful, in control
of their victims. They suddenly become the CEO's they have envisioned.
The beast that the world cannot touch.
We hoped that Anene Boysen was the last. The nation was at its feet and
we all rebuked this hideous behavior. We all sincerely mourned her
death. Body mutilation is not something we are familiar with and it sent
shivers across the country.
Some matched demanding justice to prevail. The media played a crucial
role by spreading the word and informing us of what will follow.
Years ago while I used to watch Dr Phil 's show An African
American confessed to being raped by an older man and he said. " I died
on that day"
I weeped so hard nawe you can imagine the pain and guilty that man has endured. Blaming himself for not being strong enough and what could have attracted the rapist to him.
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Nathi as the society we don't show much support to survivors.
I was watching Good Deeds with a friend that I won't name and shame not now. She became so excited when she saw Gabrielle Union who played Tyler's wife and she said she was raped? I turned and asked so what?
Why is it news when someone has been brutally hurt -she did not ask to be raped. Its not something you chose.
Whether a person walks the street naked or whatsoever that does not gives anyone
permission to destroy someone's life. Let's love and protect one
another.
Then if my people who are called by my name will humble themselves and
pray and seek my face and turn from their wicked ways, I will hear from
heaven and will forgive their sins and restore their land: 2 Chronicles 7:14. I love this verse and i'm sure you know what I’m insinuating.
