Smallbody, Big Personalit​y Sidudla Ke mang?!

Naturally we all have figures. Whether you are fuller figured like Beyoncé who reportedly admitted that she has to excise extensively to maintain that perfect black barbie shape of hers.

Some people are apple shaped or hour glass (like me). This shouldn't matter but we should buy clothes that fit our bodies well. Chill ngwanesu nobody died and made me Noni Gasa, a  famous stylist. Andazi if I won't be making a blanket statement when I say every woman has experienced weight woes.

Growing up, I was the skinny and bony one. I struggled so hard with the transition of turning to a voluptuous fuller figured woman (34) in my early twenties. And I tried torhwana eating less but that didn't last and drinking 8 glasses of water wasn't practical for me as I love my juice gxebe Cabana.

There is nothing unflattering as seeing a woman with love handles wearing a tight muscle top or a woman with a sagging belly wearing a cropped top with a vest underneath. Wear clothes that accentuate your best features like your African assets (hips and behind). Take time to dress your temple. Please don't torture yourself with wanting someone's petite body. Work with what you have.

Please, please. I beg. Stop wearing figure belts. They clearly do not serve their purpose. With South Africa listed among the top fattest countries in the world, healthy eating should be our priority. Don’t down everything in your sight bosisi bam.

I am not an attention seeker nani nani but I like it when I step into a room eyes starts rolling. It gives me that I have arrived moment. And every woman out there needs that moment. You just can’t walk into a room with your tail in between your legs ngathi yinja ebe amaqanda. You aren't a nobody my dear.

NB: I am always subject to correction Bathong feel free correct me, though I blog what I like :P

Us And Disable Children

I watched a white family walking freely with their disabled little girl and I stopped and said if only the same could be done by my people.

Honesty it’s rare to see a black family loving and protecting a child living with a disability. You are likely to find a child isolated and not given the special treatment they need.

The White child I saw had her wheel-chair wheels decorated with cartoons and she was genuinely happy and wasn’t portraying something that is not happening at home.

I know my people aren't well resourced and moneyed like most White people but we should nje love love and love our children.

I was so hurt a year ago by a story published by Move! magazine about a number of unemployed women in the Eastern Cape who purposely harmed their unborn babies by drinking poison to deform their fetuses. Kuba they wanted to cash on the social grant for disabled people to feed their drinking habit.

I don’t want to say may God strike by lighting those who molest and abuse children living with disabilities maar something needs to be done. People have become vultures phandl’apha. 

How do you even begin with forcing yourself on someone who is vulnerable and is not in a position to protect themselves.

We are taking ten steps backwards bakithi when we stigmatizeillnesses and disabilities. I know it’s not easy to live or even accept a child living with a disability  but there’s a method in God’s madness, you should never mistake being blessed with a disabled child as a curse God knew that you’d be perfectly fit to raise a child. AmaXhosa asekhaya athi: “Indlovu ayisindwa ngumboko wayo.”

Stars Fighting Fertility Issues

Before you yawn let me tell you this ‘gentle sister,’ this post isn't about Generation's Dineo Mashaba a magazine editor who can't fall pregnant and is pulling all stops to give her cheating husband an heir. This is real life, real stories and phenomenal women who amid tough times managed to entertain and educate us through their respective jobs.           

Rockville actress and producer Connie Ferguson that we grew up watching portraying wealthy Karabo Moroka for years has had her ovaries removed. Connie has come out strong and I can say life is good for her and her follow acting hubby Shona Ferguson and their two daughters. By the way Shona’s mother is Xhosa. *rolling eyes*

Former beauty queen turned businesswoman and The Link presenter Lerato Kganyago has recently had two fibroids that were size of a tennis ball removed from the wall of her womb. She revealed on Zaziwa that though this decreases her chances of conceiving she believes all things are possible and she would love to have kids of her own one day with Moroka Swallows footballer Katlego Mashego.

 

Nthabi  Mphahlele actress famous for playing Muvhango's mad Meiki who married her sweetheart early this year journalist Dennis Tau opened up to Real Magazine about an excruciating pain she had to live with as young person. The inflicting pain is said to put her conceiving chances at a risk.

These gorgeous women are a testament of not allowing your situation to dictate your life. They didn't sit down and wondered why them, but have embraced their womanhood and didn’t hide behind their celebrity status.

 

 

To Tag or Not To Tag?

I do not want to sound like a Twitter cop because for someone like me with two followers my right to brag is non-existent. Excuse me for not moving on with the times, LOL!

 

I get really worked up when people who hold influential positions misuse them. It just gets to me. Even the ones who want to gain popularity by being 'bitchy'.

 

I don't know how one feels when they bring others down. We are not the same vele some are sensitive, others don't give a Tugela river! We just need to learn to respect each other qha ke!

 

I am as nosy as they come but getting my hands all muddy and dirty with people I claim to care about doesn't make sense. So when you tweet trash about someone why do you feel the need to tag them?

 

What are you hoping to achieve, we all fool around and have our preferences but why the need to shove it at people's face. Is it attention seeking or trying to be cool among your peers at someone's expense?!

 

I have read the two letters that were sent to Khaya Dlanga anonymously by women who were voicing out their frustrations after dumping their cheating boyfriends  . At the end of both letters I more was worried about the women who wrote them rather than the so called losers. The anger that we direct to some people is actually the window that gives people an idea about our bitterness.

 

I for one don't even have the guts to tag someone when I have said something good about them because I don't want them to think I'm buying their faces or looking for a retweet. That's just me and my pride.

 

Then there are those who try to water down the negativity that some folks have NYONYOBAD on Twitter by saying we shouldn't take anything that happens there seriously.  C’mon! Our Tweets are an indication of what's going on your head so please nantsika!

Hashtag SeeYourLife!

Five Black Men to Look Up to

I have decided to compile a list of influential people whose career path is worth following and supporting.

If you have taken time and read my blog you would know that I love the entertainment industry. I strongly believe in giving people the recognition they deserve, yeah man we ought to celebrate our fellow black men who are making a difference out there. We can't over look their efforts to change our society.

The first one has to be Zibanani Madumo also known as Oneal, though I came to know of him through Big Brother Africa the Chase. Nje ngesiqhelo I snooped around, did a background check on him. Oneal is rapper, a club and radio DJ currently based in Botswana but plans on moving to eMzantsi to broaden his horizons.

 He was raised in an impoverished and notorious township called Phikwe. His road to stardom wasn’t served to him on a silver platter as he had to beg radio stations to give him a chance. On Big Brother he narrated his story on how he used to sleep on a studio awaiting any opportunity that would come along for him to seize the moment. He also explained how reading books helped improve his communication skills. He’s often quoted by his BBA supporters as saying “he is a rose that grew in concrete.”

He is currently raising funds for project he is working on to get young people to read. And I’m crossing fingers that results into him penning an autobiography.

I don't know what cave have you been living in if you don't know who Sbusiso Leope  is. At

36 he has achieved so much, born and bred in Tembisa. Sbu, the number one knocks man as he is affectionately known, is not only a partner to South Africa's most successful record company, TS Records. Which is home to the internationally-recognised star, Zahara who took the entertainment industry by storm when her debut album Loliwe sold out. Dj Sbu is also a radio and TV presenter as well as the president of SLEF foundation in his many titles. As part of his philanthropic work, he has funded a number of tertiary students. He is set to release his first book on December 02 of which he claims it will focus more on business rather than his personal life.

Khaya Dlanga who hails from Dutyini in Mount Ayliff’ story is like a fairy tale. If you are a believer you'd agree with the Word of God when it says everything works for the good for those who believe.

Khaya left Mdantsane for Mother City, armed with only a R500 and a little bag (in case things didn't work out) but today has several awards under his belt; for best blogger and for his work at Coca Cola. He was part of the initiative, facilitated by Pan MacMillan, called the ‘Youngster’s’ and authored a book titled ‘In My Arrogant Opinion’. His life story proves nothing can stop a determined soul because he started from the bottom now he’s eating the fruit of his sweat.

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Shaka Sisulu, the son of our parliament speaker Max Sisulu and yes, the grandchild of our struggle icons, Walter and Nontsikelelo Sisulu.

Shaka is radio presenter and now is part of the new team deployed to stabilize the ANCYL after the havoc that was caused by EFF founder Julius Juju Malema during his presidency.

He is also part of the ‘Youngster’s’ series and has released a book called 'Becoming'. His aim is to stimulate the youth’s interest in reading.

  It’s not everyday that you find a 30 year old having a booming business, but Sizwe Dhlomo’s made giant footsteps not only in the entertainment industry but his restaurant has made a name for itself.

The former live presenter is also doing well as the dj on Y Fm. Sizwe is not only a CUTIE but a smarty too and Tweeps nicknamed him Dhloogle lol. A search engine of some sort due to his vast knowledge about EVERYTHING.
 

These melanin advantaged brothers as Khaya would say have proven beyond doubt that life in the entertainment industry is not all about glitz and glamour but you have to go an extra mile to get the result and be a blessing along the way.

"Ubuntu mabande bakithi!!!"