She Shall Be Called A Woman

Women are the most enduring beings ever.

Women can literally put up with anything.
Iyakwazi lanto ufukamela amaqanda abolileyo ngelokufihla ihlazo lomzi walo.

I am always thrown back when people judge women who stay in abusive relationships.

I believe most of them are waiting for that I have had enough moment. And when that moment finally present itself, you better pray you not close by to feel their wrath.

Sadly to some it never comes and they die in the hands of their loved ones.

I can't find it in my heart to forgive that Silvertown woman who allowed old men to do as they lusted in her underage daughter in exchange for a beer.

And the women that do nothing after they have heard how their spouses secretly molested their babies.

Its our duty as women to shield what we love and doubtlessly sacrifice our own happiness to see it blossom into something wonderful.

Having mentioned all this I still pride myself in being a woman in Africa. Though we are not there yet in terms of eradicating  women abuse, human tracking, poverty but I know with the strength that God has bestowed in us we can do it.

Phumzile Mlambo-Ngcuka our first female deputy president is a perfect example of how high we can spread our wings. She was recently appointed  as new UN Women Executive Director.

Is My Hair Too African?

 

Let me partake on this weave and natural hair debate that has never reached any conclusion.

It makes perfect sense for Africans to grow their natural hair.

I'm sure the Westerners are laughing at us now.

Have you seen a white woman putting on a dead black woman's hair? Or rocking a Pitch Black Afro wig?

My primary School teacher often said Ubuhle bentombi zinwele zayo so what happens when you are wearing synthetic or worse Brazilian weave.

Doesn't it bother you that fake hair is mostly sold in Brazil and India where poverty rates is escalating? They are likely encouraged to sell their human hair to make ends meet. Euww!

It's an undeniable fact that the minute you take if off the counter and pay few thousands it becomes yours? Right?!

I don't want to be too religious on you because its not my place but I think we are selling ourselves short.

To me, seeing a black sassy woman in a weave represents a lost generation.

We have detached from who we are and we subconsciously allowed the media to dictate to us what true beauty is.

You are not your hair but its part of who you are.

Love and appreciate the kinky hair you were born with.