Why I blog

I have been dreading to pen this. I really did not see a reason to justify my 'actions' plus it was kinda late. Setting the record straight and hopefully making some peeps to tolerate me outweighed the reasons I had. You have probably seen on my previous posts that I am very opinionated, inquisitive and self-aware at the same Xesha.

I enjoy making known my not always correct views on the world we live in. I am not afraid to flaunt my 'naivity' because it depicts the kind of person that I am. Not perfect but likes talking non-stop and impacting my knowledge to those who care to listen and hopefully get a reaction   too. 

I have always wanted to have a platform where I just vent whatever and not look over my shoulder to see who is listening kwaye I was never a crowd pleaser shem.

The fear of close friends, frenemies and foes reading what I have posted freaked me out a bit but it sprout to mind that I am here on this earth to do me and my journey is different from theirs.

I have decided to list the schools have I attended so yall know I don't speak 'commercial english' lol. No I just wanted to brag.

1.Lunga in Mdantsane(Haala East Londoners lol).

2. Homba  in D Section in Khayelitsha

3. Sivile in Ikhwezi Park Khayelitsha

4. Intshinga in Gugulethu next to Mzolis lol

5. Qolora by Sea in Centane (1 day I will share my experiences of staying in a village for 4 years)

6. Byletts Combined School near East London.

7. Luhlaza High.

I will post about things that should be left unsaid. You will not always agree with what's on my mind. I think I’m thought provoking though peeps are quick to say I’m motivational so brace yourself tiger kwaaaks .

Banele - My gettin there

Dressed in a black skirt and a white shirt, hair nicely combed.  Anele Banele an Information Technology graduate Rushes down the stairs of Metro rail train station, trying to board an 8 am train to Cape Town.

Banele is a Born-again Christian from the Eastern Cape, She came here to pursue her dreams of owning an IT company.

Time and again she looks at her silver and gold watch “I am so late, I should be in town already.”

“Anele” will be meeting a group of friends for a Human Rights Day party that she and her friends are organising. The party is specially made for children with disabilities. “I was raised by a single mother and she literally struggled to raise us.”

She calmly picks her cerise pink cell phone to tell her friends that she is running late. Anele tells me what makes her a patriot.  “All my life I wanted to do something that will put a smile on someone’s face, and living in South Africa that is not so hard because my government can provide me with all that I need.”

“With a planed and well structured idea, I can persuade any relevant government official to back my plan, if have attended government organised seminars and we are told not be afraid to ask them for assistance as they are here to serve us.

We arrive in Cape Town and Anele hurries to Gardens where her friends are waiting for her. Three girls all wearing black and white greets and hug her. The other one starts to point to brown branch chair under a tree suggesting we should all take a sit.

While brainstorming, a tall and dark guy with a Teko Modise cut interrupts and apologise for being late. He quickly opens his bag and takes a black laptop, “I hve set a meeting with the events manager and I think we should all go” he said

For few seconds the girls did not say a word and it was crystal clear that they did not expect the meeting to be over so soon. Anele saves them time and said “I thought this meeting was about us helping the kids not spending money.”

After hours  and hours of disagreements the group finally agreed on something and said the theme of the party will be “proudly south African”.

MEN ENJOY SEX MORE THAN WOMEN

My former Life Orientation teacher used to say “It does not matter how poor people are, they will always have sex” and that could be proven by the number of children they have.

In most countries men are seen as the head of the family. Whatever the men wants he gets. A woman’s voice or opinion does not matter and a woman’s role is to satisfy her husband.

Men were created to enjoy sex more than women. Their testosterone levels are higher than women’s. It takes twenty minutes for a woman to be on and a few minutes for a man.

To men sex is meaningless, there is nothing much attached to it and they would not mind doing it as often as they could.

Men and women are different. Women like feeling loved and special. To a woman sex is important and it’s the next step in a relationship. There is a lot involved, it’s not just about exchanging body fluids. It’s about love and connection. Hence women love foreplay and men struggle to understand why women love foreplay.

 Some men think sex is just an exercise and they need to have it regularly. Most men would have it with any good looking woman that comes their way, anywhere. When men see voluptuous woman or woman showing a cleavage, they get sexually excited and start fantasizing about seeing that woman naked.

You tend to get men as old as one’s grandfather, promiscuous towards young girls and providing them with their financial needs so that they could get sex in return.

Women are moody and like being in control of every situation and they are easily turned off by a men that want to take control and satisfy his sexual needs.

Men like talking about sex with their friends.  “Guys sexualize everything.  Like, if I was rich and famous as Usher, I would sleep with any girl I want.” (Mahomba ,2012)

To most men sex seems like a hobby until something else comes along. Its even proven that most men cannot be satisfied by having sex with one woman for the rest of their lives without cheating.

Amazing kitty

Naquita Hendricks is a19 year old Journalism student at the Cape University of Technology in the Bellville Campus.

Kitty as friends call her has a bubbly personality. Talks likes there is no tomorrow especially when the topic discussed involves politics.

She comes from a political minded family. Her mother is a former politician and has worked for the ANC,ID and DA. She even ran as Ward counselor  for  Muizenburg’s ward 64 and came second while working for the then  ID.

Her  family involvement in politics has not always been good. In 1996 she was shot at in Khayelitsha (where i live). Fezile the guy that saved her was stabbed  a week after  because he was seen as a traitor by the black community. That incident made her family to appreciate each other more.

Kitty loves being the centre of attention. She started modeling at the age of 2 years but stopped at the age of 13 after her father died. She lost her passion because her dad was her motivator.

During her modeling years  she won a number of beauty pageants and her older sister was her role model  as she also modeled.  

Her enthusiasm  made her  a video girl at the tender age of six. She was the lead girl on a music video of the famous Rockets which was filmed at  st.James beach.

She is also a sport  fanatic. She played hockey for the Western Province and she  plays as a goalie for the Shacks at the Pro Series Indoor Hockey.

Kitty  knows the meaning of independency as she works part time, at the Rascals pub in keniworth. Working in a pub has not changed her beliefs and continues to be a strong believer in Catholism.

WHY IT IS IMPORTANT FOR JOURNALISTS TO READ AND BEING A JOURNALIST SHOULD YOU READ THEORY?

It is very important for a journalist to read because reading is educational. Reading can make a journalist an expert in a certain topic as reading informs an individual. Reading opens ones mind to different things.

It is  good for a journalist to be university-qualified. Many jobs in communications, particularly government organizations require a tertiary qualification as a prerequisite though a number of people can get a job with a media organization.

Studying journalism helps in getting a solid foundation in the fundamental skills of the trade. Journos get access to specialized, upper-level journalism courses. For example if a journo wants to be a sportswriter or a film critic, will attend a journalism school that offers a specialized classes in theses areas. Most offer training in the kind of multimedia skills that are in demand. Most like the Cape University of Technology (CPUT) offer internship programs for their students.

Studying journalism gives journos an access to mentors, namely the journalism –faculty, who have worked in the profession and can offer valuable advice. Like CPUT most Universities include faculty who are journalists, giving journos a chance to network with professionals in the field.

Some of the highlites of journalism school are the connection it offers. While learning invaluable skills about what journalism is about and how to craft and report stories, journors will meet lectureres who likely have strong ties in the media world.

Journalist should always read as reading crafts their knowledge. It is part of journalists job to know the langauge that the public undersands as they don’t always deal with literate people.

Journalism is not often cosidered as a proffession because there is quite a number of journalists who never went to school and are doing good. Though they don’t really know the theory-side of journalism.

ACT LIKE A LADY- THINK LIKE A MAN

WHAT MEN REALLY THINK ABOUT LOVE, RELATIONSHIPS, INTIMACY, AND COMMITMENT BY STEVE HARVEY

Steve Harvey is an international comedian and an actor known for his awesome acting skills especially in the Steve Harvey show.

In this book Steve is telling women how men operate, the things men do and reason why they do them. Steve calls this book a play book of some sort as it guides women on men.

Men are driven by three things: who they are, what they do and how much they make. Everything they do is influenced by these three things and they can not be in a healthy relationship before they have figured them out.

 On the first chapters of the book Steve talks of the ways men are groomed from an early age to be strong and protect the women in their lives. Men have a different DNA than women, they do not show their love like women.

 They believe in professing, providing and protecting their women. Steve made an example of his childhood. Whenever they went out his father used to call him and tell him to protect his mother and sisters.

Steve emphasizes on the fact that men need support, loyalty and the cookie in order to be committed to a relationship. If any of the three is missing especially the cookie they will go to someone who will give it to them. Steve calls sex a cookie.

He explains why men do what they do basically the mind-set of men. When a man approaches a woman he has a plan whether he wants to sleep with her or have a good relationship with her. They tell from the start of a relationship if a woman is a keeper or a sports fish. A keeper is the marrying type and a sport fish is a ‘plaything’.

He tells why men cheat and why some remain mama’s boy after they have tied the knot or in a serous relationship. He said men respect standards and women should have them as they indicate how they want to be treated.

 Every woman should ask these five questions before things get hotter and hotter. What are your short-term goals, what are your long-term goals, what are your views on relationships, what do you think about me, and what do you feel about me. The answer of what he feels and what he thinks should be different. He advises women to have follow-ups on these questions as they want specifics. It should be a well thought answer not something his been saying to a number of girls.

Women should have a ninety day rule. “Some type of a probationary period to find out more about him.” A man does not get benefits of being in a relationship until those ninety days are over. During  the ninety days a women should check her man out, how does he react  when you tell him you’ve got some problems, how does your man react under  pressure, how does he react to bad news and how does he react when he’s told “no”.

Steve warns women with children of not introducing them early in the relationship as it helps to see if your man likes kids or not. Steve rebukes strong independent and lonely women of mistreating the men who wants to be in a relationship with them.

He advises women on how to get the ring and answer questions women don’t know about men. In the book Steve emphasizes that men are not like women. They are simple creatures, who want to be loved.